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Top 10 stereotypes about women and their partial exposure
06.03.2015 - 16:46
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Stereotypes largely determine our lives and allow us to explain almost any phenomenon in reality. It's no secret that there are a lot of stereotypes about women. On the eve of International Women's Day, FederalPress.World collected the most common stereotypes about women and looked at them from a scientific perspective.
1. About women's logic
The most common stereotype is the notorious “female logic”. Any peculiarities of behavior and thinking of representatives of the fair sex are explained precisely by the peculiarities of their logic.
Meanwhile, American scientists have found that so far. The study, which surveyed 12 million people, showed that in 75% of cases, the answers of men and women to questions on a specially designed test were the same, regardless of the age of the respondents.
Of course, there are things to which representatives of the stronger and weaker sex react differently. Thus, men were more likely to behave boldly and aggressively, while women were more sensitive to pain. Moreover, women are much more better than men remember positive pictures.
2. About female fidelity
Since the Middle Ages, largely thanks to christian church, the stereotype has become established that women are treacherous and deceitful creatures. Scientists have proven that it was not in vain that the churchmen warned the stronger half of humanity.
Australian biologists discovered. Experts examined seven thousand people - men and women in close relationships. We identified – anonymously – the infidels. There were more than 400 of them. And almost all cheaters had the AVPR1A gene (the cheating gene).
Later it was found that men also have this gene, but it does not have such a detrimental effect on them. The effect appears only in the weaker sex.
3. About women's memory
There are rumors that most women have a memory like a goldfish: three seconds passed - I forgot. However, Norwegian scientists have refuted this misconception. As it turned out, dates, clothing sizes and their promises.
Researchers studied the health status of 50 thousand volunteers of different ages. Of these, it turned out that 222 people suffered from various stages of age-related dementia. The remaining participants over 30 years of age were asked to fill out a questionnaire, all of which related to memory problems. The scientists were interested in whether the respondents had problems with short-term memory, as well as with remembering dates, poems and faces.
86.5 percent of women and 89.7 percent of men complained that they do not remember the names of their acquaintances. Poor memory for dates was found in 64.7 and 74.9 percent, respectively.
According to scientists, men's memory is affected by the fact that their work places higher demands on mental stress, or that men quickly learn to rely on women.
4. About women's superstition
Women are more emotional and trusting - this is a well-known fact, which has given rise to another stereotype. It is believed that than men. British scientists found confirmation of these rumors.
Scientists from Foggy Albion have calculated that women are twice as likely as men to declare their belief in God and life after death. The research involved 9,000 UK residents aged forty years. Half of those surveyed said they were atheists. 60 percent of women and 35 percent of men believe in an afterlife, while 45 percent of men and 66 percent of women believe in God.
5. About women's driving
Men believe that women do not know how to drive a car. It got to the point that the British insurance company Sheilas’ wheels offered. According to the authors of the idea, road accidents will be greatly reduced if the “female” lanes are painted pink and special signs are installed.
Meanwhile, scientists from the University of Kansas studied accident statistics and found that. According to experts, the reason is that young people love to ride high speed in deserted places.
Experts analyzed about 150 accidents that occurred in Kansas over six years. As a result, they were able to establish that girls mostly got into accidents at intersections or hit pedestrians, and young people often became involved in accidents off roads, Internet media write. In addition, representatives of the fair sex got into accidents in weekdays, and men - on weekends.
Girls also turned out to be more responsible drivers, 68% more likely than young people to wear seat belts.
6. About women's diets
Many men are sure that every woman dreams of hearing the cherished words: “How did you lose weight.” Modern magazines They advise the fair sex what to eat to lose weight. Especially for girls, dietary salads appear on the menus of cafes and restaurants. However, recently a joint study by Canadian and British scientists showed that, including anorexia and bulimia. Women either eat at any time for pleasure or refuse food completely.
In addition, it would also be a good idea for men to pay attention to what they eat. American scientists proved last year that excess weight, arising from the abuse of fatty foods. The list of ailments includes cardiovascular diseases and even brain tumors.
7. About female endurance
It is believed that women are by nature much more resilient than men. This may be true, but women when doing work. This is confirmed by research by Israeli scientists.
It turned out that men are much less likely than women to think about the possibility of losing their desk chair when leaving work. In addition, women receive less than men for similar work, that is, employers routinely underestimate the experience, skills and quality of work of the weaker sex.
Women were better at solving tasks that required cognitive control, and were faster at completing them than men, even in those difficult cases, when the subjects were faced with several problems at once.
Scientists have two theories at once. According to the first, women “have become wiser” due to the forced constant combination of raising children and career growth; according to another, women have always had higher intellectual potential than men, but they have only now been able to realize it.
10. About women's destiny
The stereotype that a woman should not leave the stove is not only quite absurd for the modern world, but also dangerous to the health of the fairest half of humanity. American scientists have noticed that household, including cleaning, washing and cooking, . First of all, the cardiovascular system of the body suffers.
Experts have come to the conclusion that this phenomenon is due to women’s lack of time to relax, even at home. In addition, if a woman is freed from endless worries, she will be able to pay more attention to her husband, children and pets.
P.S. The article is intended to refute another stereotype - women have a sense of humor.
I found the article on some random blog, but the author of this blog also took it from another source.
“America is a country that provides such grounds for the creation of a stereotypical perception of it, which is unlikely to be provided by all the countries of the world combined. Having selected a dozen of them, I decided to try to deconstruct them. Stereotype 1.
"In America there is no tasty food– all food is synthetic. All Americans eat fast food and constantly visit McDonald's restaurants."
Absolutely untrue. America is a country with a thriving restaurant business, and in almost every American city you will find the entire geographic range of restaurants - from Ukrainian cuisine to Thai. Just like you will find restaurants with different pricing policies. But, if in most countries the difference in the prices of restaurant menus can reach a coefficient of 3.0, or even 7.0 (in a cheap restaurant, a steak costs 5 conventional units, and in a neighboring, expensive one, 5x3 = 15 conventional units), then in America this coefficient in the vast majority of restaurants it is unlikely to exceed 1.5.
Of course, you can also find restaurants here where prices are not indicated on the menu at all. There you can drink champagne for a thousand dollars a bottle and eat plenty of black caviar. But there are few such restaurants and they are designed for specific clients, the number of which is unlikely to exceed 3% of the population. Main infrastructure Catering designed for the middle class, i.e. to the majority of the population. Americans don't cook much themselves, partly to save time and partly because of a lack of tradition. It is common practice for many families to order food from nearby restaurants. It costs little more than cooking it yourself.
The range of fast food establishments in the states is very wide, but not all locations fast food look like a McDonald's restaurant. For example, if you take the Taco Bell’s or Denny’s chains, they look like cheap restaurants. And some Chinese buffets, built on the principle of " buffet”, will surprise a European tourist with the fact that here you can eat tiger shrimps in sweet and sour sauce with young bamboo shoots for five years in advance for 10 dollars. It was in America that I managed to lose more than 5 kilograms in two weeks without much effort.
In general, in America, restaurants with tasteless food or small portions are unlikely to stay afloat for at least one season.
Stereotype 2.
“Everyone in America is ugly fat,” or another option – “America is a country of long-legged blondes with magnificent busts.”
Both are nonsense. Yes, there are plenty of overweight (and ugly overweight) people in the states. But it is unlikely that most countries in the world differ from America in better side in this matter. Once upon a time it caught my eye a large number of plump young girls in Britain, the same goes for men in the German provinces, or Czechs in Prague beer halls. For Americans, this fact is more striking due to the fact that the majority of active (read “slender”) citizens drive in cars where you can hardly see their figure. Poor people who prefer a cheeseburger for breakfast, lunch and dinner walk around the city and increase the coefficient of noticeable overweight people.
Another American pattern is the absolute dependence of the quantity fat people on the number of people in the city. How bigger city, the more active life is, and the lower the average weight of a city dweller. It is also natural that the average weight of a person increases as they approach a poor area. Another factor in the increase in the number of overweight people is belonging to a particular state: if in Chicago the majority of the population looks like trotting greyhounds, then in the Californian province they are more reminiscent of leisurely English bulldogs. The reason for the difference is simple - in California it is not customary to travel on foot - here you can go for several kilometers without meeting a single person walking.
Regarding “blondes with curvaceous“- here the situation is more comical. Once, in response to my humorous question posed to an American colleague about why I don’t see a crowd of busty beauties on the streets of Orlando, he replied: “They are not here - they are all collected in one of the pavilions of the Columbia Pictures studio.” This joke, like many others, “has some truth.” Beautiful girls in America they arrange their lives much faster than ugly people. However, I believe this principle applies to other countries as well. And, having “settled their life”, they begin to work on television, advertising, cinema, show business, etc. You have to work a lot in these areas, and therefore there is little time to walk the streets.
It must be said that attractive men in America also do not wander idly on the streets - in addition to the listed professions for attractive women, they are expected to: serve in the army and police, as well as play in leading clubs in the hockey, basketball, baseball and football leagues.
Stereotype 3.
“The American smile is false, and their feelings are ostentatious and insincere.”
This is wrong. Americans, for the most part, are friendly, balanced and very trusting people. Their smile is a centuries-old respect for one’s neighbor and the absence of any aggression. This thesis should be considered in isolation from the events associated with the expulsion of Indians from their territories or civil war.
Americans are the owners of a purely island perception surrounding life. They can rejoice like children when they see the world's largest hot dog, fall into hysterics when they win $20 in the lottery, and cry their hearts out when they see the death of the main character in a movie. As soon as you meet the eyes of an American, he begins to smile, demonstrating his good attitude towards you. And if you respond in kind, then you can easily earn the compliment that Americans say all the time. A compliment can concern anything - from the color of sneakers to hairstyle. In no case will he be a hypocrite by calling bad sneakers good, but will simply choose something that he really liked about your appearance.
The basic principle of Americans, brought up from childhood, is “give your neighbor good mood, and someone will give it to you."
Stereotype 4.
“Americans are greedy - they pay for themselves in restaurants.
Yes, Americans pay for themselves in restaurants, but this has nothing to do with greed. Rather, it is a precaution against misunderstandings that sometimes arise. There may be several reasons for misunderstandings: the girl does not want the young man to think that she cannot pay for herself; two friends will argue furiously about who will pay; one person does not want to become even slightly dependent on another... But you never know the reasons.
But Americans, contrary to the stereotype, often pay for each other. And here there are many models for determining the rules of the game: from “I invite you” (meaning “I’m paying”) to “drink from me.” But the phrase “maybe we can have lunch on Thursday?” means one thing - everyone will pay for themselves. Many Europeans happily adopted this diplomatic game, tired of endless thoughts - “I wonder who will pay for dinner today?”
A special topic is the hospitality of the Americans. It differs from Slavic in form, but is very similar in content. Americans know how not only to give gifts, but also to arrange the gift in such a way that it will be remembered for a lifetime. It was they who invented that very surprise, when a person enters a house in pitch darkness, the light comes on, and two dozen guests who you did not invite to your birthday are screaming heart-rendingly in the room.
Before Christmas, American families head to supermarkets to buy gifts. Each head of the family has a list in his hands, which sometimes does not fit on one page - this is a list of relatives and friends who need to buy gifts. And, as a rule, the gifts here are significant and pleasant, unlike many families Western Europe, where you can easily get an egg slicer from your mother-in-law for Christmas from the “All for One Euro” store.
Stereotype 5.
"The Americans want to take over the world."
This stereotype is based on the desire of most countries to have a permanent enemy, to whom it is easy to attribute their own mistakes in politics and economics. By demonizing a nation of 300 million and calling one segment of the political elite "Americans," the means mass media and individual political figures in a number of countries build up a defense in this way from their own population, which, otherwise, might ask: “Why, exactly, do we live so badly?” And so no one asks questions, “knowing” that America is to blame for the troubles of all countries - “the world of the yellow devil”, “a country that dreams of enslaving the world”, “a land where the rules of life are dictated by the military”...
But even if we take the Iraqi campaign, frankly weakly (if not to say “ineptly”) carried out by the Bush administration, we will see that the most powerful anti-war protest was in America: hundreds of thousands of demonstrations, the participation of world film and music stars, countless protests... And were these also “Americans dreaming of world domination”? No, these were Americans themselves - residents of the United States of America, who, just like citizens of other countries, do not like the fact that their compatriots are dying somewhere for dubious interests.
The weak link American politics often they are diplomats. I don’t want to “scratch them all with the same brush,” because I had, and still have, the opportunity to communicate with professional American diplomats. But, nevertheless, American diplomacy is often replenished with specialists quite low level preparation. And the reason for this is the demand for the best personnel within the country - another feature of a typically “island” state.
Political generalizations are generally a dangerous thing. It is they who have led to the fact that the mistakes of the ruling elite are extrapolated to the nation, despite the fact that the nation itself does not at all share the views of this very elite. The American people do not deserve such treatment, because they were the ones who corrected the mistakes of their leadership at all historical periods, be it Watergate, the Vietnam War or racial segregation.
Stereotype 6.
"America is a hotbed of depravity."
We have lived with this thought almost our entire lives, watching in Hollywood films how main character drinks neat whiskey in a strip bar. We imagined that upon arrival in America, prostitutes would meet us right on the runway at New York's La Guardia Airport. But, having traveled all over the United States, you may not only not see a live prostitute, but also not come across a “Strip Bar” sign.
America is a puritanical country. Here you can be slapped with a fine of several hundred dollars for stripping your one-and-a-half-year-old son naked on the beach, citing the fact that you “provoked pedophilic tendencies among vacationers.” A store here could be deprived of its license because one of the issues of Playboy magazine was on its counter not sealed in a cellophane envelope. They may close here night club after they found it in the hall young man who is under 21 years of age.
Sometimes puritanism here goes off scale, and then America reveals to the world trials and ridiculous scandals. Perhaps, only here a person who has gone through a divorce cannot become president, and only here can the president’s betrayal of his wife cause hearings in Congress. This radically distinguishes the States from France or Germany, where recent heads of state have experienced 3-4 divorces in their lives.
Stereotype 7.
“The Americans are a narrow-minded, poorly erudite nation.”
American erudition is fundamentally different from European, or, for example, Slavic erudition. Here, teachers at school or university do not try to cram 40 volumes of the memorized Great Soviet Encyclopedia into the head of a schoolchild or student. Here they are trying to teach something else - information collection methods and work algorithms. Yes, an American student may not know which composer wrote the opera “Khovanshchina,” but he can easily formulate an algorithm for finding this information if he needs it.
Americans easily understand useful information, and absolutely do not perceive it as useless. If you tell the average American that you can dilute gasoline in order to make money on it, he will answer in bewilderment: “then the car will drive poorly,” after which he will completely lose interest in the topic, because he considers it illogical and useless. Such selectivity has a bad effect on general erudition, but has a great effect on the training of specialists. Eg, medical education it lasts 11 years, not counting permanent advanced training courses.
By the way, the internal discipline of Americans sometimes takes rather unusual forms for us. One of our American friends refused to watch a DVD brought from Belarus because it was not licensed. And this was not a pose, but a consequence of a habit instilled in him by society throughout his life.
Communicating with Americans, you learn a lot of new things. But, as a rule, unlike the Slavic worldview, this information lies outside the sphere of politics. Americans receive information using the most advanced information transfer mechanisms. The equipment of museums, libraries and technical centers here is the most modern in the world, and caravans of yellow school buses endlessly transport children to lectures and excursions.
Stereotype 8.
"America is run by the military-industrial complex."
This is a stereotype instilled in us since childhood. “American military” is the mildest of the epithets offered to us by Soviet television in defining the military-industrial complex. For decades, they “explained” to us that it is the American military-industrial complex that almost appoints the presidents of this country.
In reality, everything is much more prosaic - America is ruled by Americans. They are the ones who choose the president, knowing his biography thoroughly. And it is precisely familiarization with the biography of the presidential candidate that allows you to accurately determine with whom the candidate is connected - with the “military community,” the fuel and energy lobby, financiers or cinema. In order for the population to do right choice, journalists are working, taking out skeletons hidden there from the closets of presidential candidates. Of course, mistakes happen. Like the recent one, when the candidate belonged to the fuel and energy lobby. The population believed that this affiliation would lower fuel prices within the country, but in fact it increased them, since the president turned out to be not a buyer, but a seller.
The "American military" is in line for funding just like any other dateable field in America. Another thing is that their lobby is stronger and more effective than, for example, the sphere of culture or pension funds. And the number of people employed in the military-industrial complex and indirectly related to it is significantly larger than, say, in agriculture. Consider the numbers: 80% of all agricultural products consumed in the United States are produced in California, yet California's agricultural sector employs only 5% of the state's population. What kind of lobby is this?
But no matter how the lobby works, Americans choose the president absolutely transparently and independently. And sometimes this happens not in favor of the military, but out of a feeling of protest towards the military campaigns waged by the authorities.
Stereotype 9.
“Americans believe that all discoveries were made in the USA.”
In fact, it is not the Americans who think so, but we believe that they think so. In fact, if you turn to an American with a question about who made this or that discovery, in most cases you will receive the answer: “I don’t know, you need to look in the reference book.” And if you continue the discussion by saying: “he did this...”, you may receive a request in response to tell him more about it.
Americans are better than other nations at singing the praises of their heroes, being proud of the country's achievements, and admiring talent. But they completely lack the purely Slavic trait of tearing heroes apart into countries and states. Any American knows which country his family came from, and when they meet, they will gladly talk about it, emphasizing, “my grandparents came from Belarus - there is a city called Slutsk.” And to the question “you don’t know where Wayne Gretzky is from?”, most likely the answer will be “unfortunately, I don’t know where his family came from.”
A country consisting of 95% emigrants, by definition, does not insist on the fact that all discoveries belong to it. In these matters, Americans are absolutely tolerant and not ambitious. But if you tell a Bostonian that the New England Patriots are weaker than the New York Giants, you may hear a dissection of the New York team that will make you want to move on to the "so who invented the radio" discussion.
Stereotype 10.
"I don't like America."
I have heard this phrase dozens, if not hundreds, of times. And I always asked the same question in response: “Were you there?” In 99% of cases the answer was: “No, and I don’t want to.” It’s hard to argue with people who know about the subject firsthand; it is even harder for those who know about this subject from the words of biased journalists or politicians.
It is hardly possible not to love America. Firstly, because it is different, like patchwork quilt; secondly, to know it, you need decades of direct contact, and not a set of yellowed Soviet newspaper clippings; and thirdly, it’s just a country – with its own advantages and disadvantages.”
1. Feeling sorry for yourself.
The attitude of being poor arises in a person when he begins to feel sorry for himself and believes that poverty is the fate of fate. Some people think that if she had been born a man, she would have been luckier, since men more possibilities. Some people worry that if they weren’t so fat, they would get a better position, because it is believed that thin people are more attractive. Someone is dissatisfied with their skin color, nationality, height, or the religion of their forefathers. Others feel sorry for themselves for not getting married or not getting married, others, on the contrary, cry that they got married or divorced early. Young people cry that they have little experience, and old people see age as the source of all their troubles. It is not difficult to guess what will happen to a person who is focused on his imaginary shortcomings. Even the people around you will treat you according to what you think about yourself. If you feel sorry for yourself, then it is better to hang a stone around your neck so that you can drown in a quiet pool of hopeless poverty. Self-pity prevents you from looking for a better paying job and is the root of a miserable existence.
2. Stinginess.
If you cannot buy a single product without a promotional price tag on it, and you also think that all stores that say “Stunning discounts today” are suitable for you, then you are not able to give your children a decent education, because you in your life you achieved everything on your own, but at work you take three skins off your employees and pay them like the last slackers, then it is undeniable that you have a second factor of poverty. Constant savings in everything is not a wise decision, but, on the contrary, shows the imbalance of your plans, which you are trying to solve using the wrong method. A person who is oriented towards being rich is willing to pay generous prices for things and pay his employees decently for the work of his employees, and also expects the same disposition towards himself from others.
3. Choosing a job that depresses you.
Kolya hates cleaning shoes, but no one cares. For Tolya, walking her dog is the same as going for a walk in the rain and not taking an umbrella with her. But at the same time, he does not want to pick up a tool to build a playpen for the dog. Anton Pavlovich gets very annoyed when he has to draw up a monthly report, but his deputies don’t care about this. Anna is burdened by her audit work, but she needs to pay off debts on the loan she took out last winter to buy a garage for her car. All these heroes are ready to suffer and beg for one reason only; they are forced to do so by obligations, because of which they have to do a job they don’t like. To rid yourself of the third factor of poverty, you need to set priorities in life so that you mostly do what brings joy. And only by experiencing positive emotions can you reach sky-high heights.
4. Assessing happiness in monetary terms.
A poor person thinks that happiness is not just in money, but in its quantity. He thinks that having a large sum in the bank, he will feel well-being, buying stylish clothes, comfortable housing, traveling wherever he wants, because there is no need to depend on his parents and go to work. An accomplished person measures his success not in monetary units, but in those values that everyone chooses for themselves and which are higher than material wealth.
5. Buying things that cost more than you can afford.
The debt hole lies behind the smiles of bankers and credit cards. A person with the mentality of a beggar cannot realize that it is one thing to take out a loan to develop his business, and another to take out a luxury car and a luxurious mansion.
6. Much is better at once.
Poor people want to get a lot at once, this is the eternal problem of impatience of the poor. They cannot realize that getting a job with an average income in large company, in five to seven years they will be able to get more than betting on what they could have in a couple of months. Students with a loser mentality constantly complain that during the time they spend wiping their pants at the institute, they could successfully spend “stray profits” on earning money.
7. Dissatisfaction with life.
Problems in life? Didn't everything work out the way you wanted? There is deception, injustice, crime, bribery all around, and this is what is preventing you from taking off? Only a complete loser will say “yes” to this. To rid yourself of this factor, you need to lead a creative life, so as not to depend on circumstances, but to create them yourself. Set yourself a goal - to win where most people predict failure in advance. Such a school of life will strengthen your character, transforming it into the character of a winner.
8. I am no better or worse than others.
Kostya is sure that everyone should praise him just because he is the only excellent student in the eighth grade. Petya is convinced that he is the ultimate loser, because he is the only one among all his friends who does not work in the summer. Vasya despises Tolik because he does not have latest fashion or the BMW that Vasya bought for himself yesterday. And Sonya wants to “kill” her friend just because she has more admirers. All of these characters have developed a loser complex in themselves by comparing themselves to others. Don't let it external world controlled your identity, enslaving you and making you one of the crowd.
9. Linking wealth with money.
Successful people who have rid themselves of the fourth factor of poverty have long ago removed the equal sign between success and the number of monetary units. True wealth is the ability to attract money, get it out of nothing, plan new types of income, and then you are not afraid of tax authorities, judges, or raider attacks with loss of finances. A person who is holistic and satisfied with life does not bind himself to the number of gold bags.
10. Ignoring your family due to being busy.
If you distance yourself from your loved ones and family, then this is a sure path to failure and sorrow. Don’t try to justify your isolation by saying that your loved ones don’t understand you and don’t support you, that you have no one to rely on. financial matters. Understand that your family is the first and last resort you will turn to when everyone else either rejects you or flatters you. You can only get real recovery through the love and compassion of your family, who can not only support you, but also lift you from your knees.
We all, one way or another, we think in stereotypes - generalizations of a greater or lesser extent: division on any basis, be it “housewives” or “athletes”, inevitably gives rise to a set of clichés. Of course, the tendency to stereotype depends on all sorts of contexts - country of residence, level of education or, say, religiosity. But there is a division that we see everywhere - into “feminine” and “male”, from character traits and mental abilities to professions and manner of dressing.
These stereotypes do not arise from empty space, but once they take root in everyday life, they are very difficult to uproot from there, begin to determine our behavior and, most importantly, are not noticeable to everyone. We decided to look at the most common misconceptions about how heterosexual relationships are built and how women and men “typically” behave in them. After all, in order not to become a victim of stereotypes (or not to make your partner one), it is important to understand how they work and whether they begin to harm your relationship.
Text: Elena Nizeenko
Appearance is the main thing
There is also a second part, about a man who should be a little more handsome than a monkey, and also about the fact that a real man is distinguished by being powerful, smelly and hairy. Both parts are about appearance, which must fit into certain standards. Canons appearance for both women and men are strictly regulated and stereotyped. At the beginning of a relationship, each/each of us most likely has our own baggage of rules “how a woman should (not) look” and “how a man should (not) look.” Women are checked for the degree and quality of makeup applied, for kilograms, for grooming - and if the test result does not meet the “gold standard”, then the woman is recognized as unfeminine and unattractive.
Men are judged just as harshly through their grooming practices. If a man strives to look well-groomed according to a canon different from the “male” one (say, manicure, makeup, extravagant style of clothing), then in certain patriarchal circles he may encounter negative attitude- accusations of unmasculinity or homosexuality, which in a conservative society is considered an insult and especially hits a patriarchal man. As a result, the main victims of stereotypes about masculinity are men themselves, and women about femininity. After all, in reality it turns out that the opposite sex does not have such inhuman requirements for the appearance of a partner as we think, and in pursuit of a “beach body”, a deep bikini or pumped-up triceps, we often set out on our own, mistakenly thinking that this is exactly what is expected of us .
All women want children
The option “I want a child” is not built into either a woman or a man by default. You can, of course, argue and confirm personal experience that the naturalness of the maternal principle is irrefutable, but this does not change the fact: not all people want children - and gender has almost no effect on this. I must say that Russian society generally more patriarchal and child-centric compared to Western countries. State policy is structured in such a way that a discursive marker such as “child,” coupled with the word “motherhood,” increases the social status of any public statement. This also works in reverse side, so women, as a rule, are charged with motherhood as the main priority in life: a full-fledged, accomplished woman is not necessarily a professional, but definitely a mother. At the same time, the statuses of motherhood and paternity are assigned different positions, which, for example, leads to the traditional solution to the issue of child custody in favor of the mother. Despite the fact that men sometimes want to have children much more than women, the stereotype imposes its own limitation on them: some do not even risk admitting their desire for fatherhood, taking it as a sign of weakness.
Men want sex
and women - love
This statement has many forms of expression in folklore. All of them, as a rule, naturalize the polygamy of men, note the difference in approaches to infidelity among representatives of different sexes, note the “physiological” nature of men’s love desires and the “romanticism” of women’s love desires. Simply put, porn is for guys, women's novels are for everyone. All this creates fertile contexts for rhetoric in which men are attributed the need for sex without any special feelings, and women are given the opportunity to have it only for love. Modern world, where women have become freer in the right to dispose of their bodies, not to marry after each copulation and even, horror of horrors, to offer a man sex for one night, proves that this is not at all the case. The fact that this often takes men by surprise suggests that they have not yet readjusted and the new rules create discomfort for them. Not to mention that a desire for non-continuing sex expressed by a woman may result in the label “prostitute.”
Women speak in hints.
Their "no" often means "yes"
You can find entire lists online listing “what a woman says” and “what she really means.” The norm for men, on the contrary, is to speak directly, without beating around the bush, with the absence of any double meaning. It turns out that everyone is hostage to the way of speaking that corresponds to their gender prescriptions. If, for example, a woman says an extremely clear “no,” then this “no,” within the framework of following a stereotype, can be perceived as a “flirtatious “yes.” As a result, partners find it difficult to find a compromise: men always try to “read between the lines” or come to the conclusion that trying to understand a woman is pointless, and women, in turn, consider men to be one-dimensional creatures, not prone to reflection. In the worst case, the inability to hear a partner and understand that “no” in a woman’s mouth means “no” can lead to a romantic date or casual acquaintance ending in rape.
Women prefer
rich men
In this stereotype, the old and fabulous “you have a product, we have a merchant” continues to live. It constructs a market order for building relationships. A man is seen as a consumer, a woman is an object of consumption. Accordingly, the richer the man, the more opportunities for consumption. This stereotype has a flip side - it charges men with the need to support women. By maintaining and maintaining the status of an object, a woman turns out to be a consumer of a man’s financial resources on the basis of the fact that they are in a relationship. Of course, not everyone is in a hurry to enter into such relationships consciously, but even completely uncalculating couples sometimes subconsciously act and think within the framework of a model where a man must earn enough to meet the needs of his partner, and she, in turn, deserves this by the very fact of her existence . And the amount of money in a man’s account is just details.
All women dream
marry
Men are not ready
look after children
And although in a number of countries the practice has long existed maternity leave For men, in Russia child care is still considered “not a man’s business.” This stereotype narrows the concept of fatherhood and takes men beyond the practice of everyday worries with a child. Raising children and caring for them becomes the territory of women's monopoly. Fathers who pay a little attention to their children - changing a diaper, walking a stroller on the weekend - are rewarded with a lot of encouraging feedback from society. But fathers who leave work to raise children may well become a target for censure. Alas, the stereotype dictates its own rules and prevents each specific couple from developing a schedule and option that will suit them specifically in their particular circumstances. After all, staying at home with children is not an easy job, which both women and men are capable of.
Family is more important to women
and for men - a career
With this statement, people who somehow existed autonomously before the relationship are charged with an unambiguous and gender-marked orientation in their life aspirations. One is the breadwinner, the other is the keeper of the hearth. At the same time, both should be content with their position, because it is in nature that women and men receive satisfaction from different things. Much is written about the presence of specific “female” happiness in psychological glossies for women or, say, in women’s novels. A friend may wish for the same mythical “feminine” happiness on her birthday.
“Male happiness”, as a rule, is not desired for men, however, its understanding is also localized and determined by male wealth - financial, career, physical. According to this stereotype, a woman should wish comfort in her home, and a man - professional development, and not the other way around. Women who develop professionally, and men who are passionate about home and children, are at best perceived as exceptions, at worst as unworthy representatives of their sex and are awarded the labels “careerist” and “henpecked.”
Women always try
change men
Moreover, women, according to this statement, do this in a certain way, which is called “eating out the brain.” This process is attributed to perseverance, perseverance and the lowest methods of achievement, be it hysteria, tears, endless calls to do something or, on the contrary, to stop doing something. We rarely think about it, but among others unpleasant consequences this stereotype gives rise to a morality that is ugly in its effects: if a man raised his hand to a woman, it means she did it. After all, they, women, know how to get things done. And vice versa: the existence of this stereotype gives women an indulgence to use tears or other unconstructive methods of dialogue - simply on the basis that this is characteristic of women and, therefore, allowed. In fact, if you look more broadly, imbalance or selfishness - all these slippery features of human characters - can be characteristic of anyone and everyone, being universal, and everyone needs to control their craving for manipulation, regardless of biological sex.
Men are rational
women are emotional
Sacralization and exaggeration of differences in the psyche of women and men were found in different times and in different cultures, and in our time, the allegedly innate different degrees of emotionality in different sexes are often illustrated by data from the field of pop psychology. Both the logicalness of men and the emotionality of women - all this, according to the stereotype, is explained by the difference in the structure of the brain and the different development of the hemispheres. Increased female emotionality is also often called “hysteria,” although the medical diagnosis “hysteria,” also known as “uterine rabies,” has been out of date for a hundred years.
And yet we continue to believe that men are creatures who think logically, but women by nature cannot think logically; at best, they are characterized by some incomprehensible “female logic”. As long as this stereotype prevails, it is difficult for everyone. Men are charged with a taboo certain forms manifestations of sensitivity since childhood, for example, the familiar “don’t whine like a girl”; women are assigned from birth this illogicality of actions and reactions, as well as violent emotional behavior as the norm feminine character. All this complicates, and sometimes makes it completely impossible, mutual understanding between partners and their openness to each other.
Every nationality has its own stereotypes. People notice simple traits characteristic of the inhabitants of a particular country, exaggerate them and call them stereotypes. Stereotypes about Russians are no exception. Although some traits reflect the behavior of Russians in general, not all stereotypes are true.
People in Russia love vodka and can drink it like plain water. However, this does not mean that Russians are alcoholics. They are able to drink vodka in large quantities without getting drunk. Almost every Russian home has one or 2 bottles of vodka.
This stereotype becomes obvious as soon as you step outside in Russia. Young girls always take care of their appearance. They carefully select hair, makeup and clothes so that they match. They will never leave the house sloppy or dressed too simply.
Russian women adorn their outfits and, no matter the situation, always look stunning. Perhaps this is one of the 10 reasons why foreigners marry Russian beauties.
3. Russians love to smoke
The truth is not only that Russians smoke cigarettes one after another, but also that the government is trying to impose strict smoking ban rules in order to curb the dangerous habit. Indeed, Russia is one of the most smoking countries in the world. While in this country, you will not be able to avoid second-hand smoke; it is practically everywhere. Pay attention to the 10 most popular brands of cigarettes.
4. Russians are serious and matter-of-fact
The next stereotype is that most Russians have stern facial expressions and are indeed somewhat rude; During a conversation, they immediately get down to business. They don't have time for " small talk” and they would rather get to the point of the conversation than waste time on empty chatter.
If you find yourself in Russia, make sure you have a pa. If it is not there and you are stopped for a violation traffic, do not be surprised when the police officer asks you whether you would like a fine or pay in cash. Often in Russia, much is decided through a bribe.
Speaking of stereotypes, this one cannot be missed. Russian men and women love to dress up when they go out" into the world" Women put on fashionable clothes, fur coats and do perfect makeup. Men also love to dress in the latest fashion. However, they don’t try particularly hard unless it’s about some kind of event; women, in turn, always dress like they're for a magazine cover.
7. Russian nightclubs are difficult to get into
Unless you're rich and famous, don't expect to be allowed into a Russian club. To get to the entrance you will have to try, and it will cost something. Once you're inside the club, spend even more on admission and drinks. If you need a place to just hang out with friends, try a regular bar.
8. Men and women adhere to old stereotypes
One thing you'll notice about Russian stereotypes: the old saying " woman takes care of children while man works” fits here fully.
9. Three mainstays of the Russian table - beets, herring and dill
Due to popular stereotypes about Russians, many people have misconceptions about what babushkas are. For many, this is the image of an angry and dissatisfied elderly woman who yells at her children and complains about everything around her. In fact, there are many wonderful grandmothers who are sweet and happy and treated with respect.
Interesting video about stereotypes about Russians.