The harm is moderate but widespread Despite all of the above, it is important to understand that the extent of the harm caused by children staying in day care for long periods of time is negligible based on the data found in the study. However, those who carried out

Many gestures are not recorded by consciousness, but fully convey a person’s mood and thoughts. If you want to become an attentive and interesting interlocutor, then it makes sense to understand gestures and facial expressions, and study the signals given through non-verbal communication.

So if:

- fingers clasped. Three options are possible: crossed fingers raised at face level, lying on the table, lying on the knees. This gesture indicates disappointment and the desire of the interlocutor to hide his negative attitude;

- mouth protection with hand(this can only be a few fingers or a fist). This gesture means that the listener feels that you are lying;

- scratching and rubbing the ear. This gesture indicates that the person has heard enough and wants to speak out;

- scratching the neck. Such a gesture indicates a person’s doubt and uncertainty;

- collar pull. This gesture is used when a person is angry or upset. It can also be used in the case when a person lied and suspected that his deception was discovered;

- fingers in mouth. This gesture speaks of an internal need for approval and support;

- palm resting cheek. The gesture indicates that the interlocutor has become bored;

- the index finger is directed vertically to the temple, and the thumb supports the chin. The gesture indicates that the interlocutor has a negative or critical attitude towards what he hears;

Companion rubs his forehead, temples, chin, covers his face with his hands- this indicates that he is not in the mood to talk to anyone at the moment;

Human looks away- this is the clearest indicator that he is hiding something;

- arms crossed on chest the interlocutor signals that it is better to end the conversation or move on to another topic. If the interlocutor crosses his arms and clenches his palms into fists, this means that he is extremely hostile. It is necessary to end the conversation as soon as possible. If the interlocutor clasps his shoulders when crossing his arms, this means that he is ready to go hand-to-hand;

- "pinching the bridge of the nose" gesture the “thinker” pose, when they rest their cheek with their hand - these are gestures of reflection and evaluation;

- scratching with the index finger of the right hand the area under the earlobe or the side of the neck, rubbing the nose with the index finger are gestures of doubt that indicate that something is unclear to the interlocutor in the conversation;

An offended person most often takes the following pose. He raises his shoulders and lowers his head. If the interlocutor has taken exactly this position, then the topic of conversation should be changed;

A person trying to end a conversation lowers eyelids. If your interlocutor wears glasses, he will take off his glasses and put them aside;

If your interlocutor bites the temples of his glasses or constantly takes off and puts on glasses, this means that he is delaying the time to make a decision. In this case, you need to help your interlocutor and give him the time he needs to think;

If your interlocutor walks around the room, this means that the conversation interests him, but he needs to think before making a decision;

Gestures and character

A smug and arrogant man puts his hands together.

A confident person who wants to show his superiority over others can be recognized by the gestures of “putting hands behind the back with a wrist grip” and “placing hands behind the head.” Communication with such a person is difficult. Therefore, if they want to win him over, they lean forward a little with outstretched palms and ask him to explain something. Another way is to copy the gesture.

If the interlocutor suddenly begins to pick up lint from his clothes, and at the same time turns away from the speaker or looks at the floor, this means that he does not agree with what was said or does not want to express his opinion.

A person who, during a conversation, holds his hands on the side edges of the chair or his hands lie on his knees, wants to end the conversation. In this case, the conversation is immediately stopped.

By the way the listener exhales cigarette smoke, you can determine his attitude towards the interlocutor and the conversation. If he blows smoke constantly upward, it means he is positive and enjoying the conversation. If the smoke is directed downward, then the person, on the contrary, is in a negative mood, and the faster he releases the smoke, the more unpleasant the conversation is to him.

Gait is also an important determining factor in a person's momentary state. If a person has his hands in his pockets or is waving them, if he is looking at his feet, he is in a depressed state. A person whose hands are clasped behind his back and his head is lowered is preoccupied with something.

Dropped shoulders and a raised head mean that a person is determined to succeed and is in control of the situation. Head tilted to one side - the interlocutor is interested. Rubbing the eyelid - the interlocutor is telling a lie. Raised shoulders mean that the interlocutor is tense and feels danger emanating from you. Raised shoulders and a lowered head are a sign of isolation. The interlocutor is either unsure of himself, or afraid of something, or dissatisfied with the conversation, or feels humiliated.

In order to achieve the desired goal in a conversation, it is not enough to be an attentive person; you yourself need to use gestures of openness during the conversation that will help win over your interlocutor, invite him to a frank conversation and leave the most favorable impression about yourself. Gestures of openness include the “open arms” gesture, when they extend their hands to the interlocutor with their palms up, and the “unbuttoning the jacket” gesture.

Watch your facial expressions: your lips should not be tightly compressed, and there should be a half-smile on your face (downturned corners of your mouth are unacceptable - this means that you are upset about something, and no one needs such an interlocutor). When you look at your interlocutor, visually try to draw a triangle on his face, into which you need to look. This helps you concentrate as much as possible

If possible, keep your fingers together. When eating, dancing, or smoking, do not put your little finger out to the side; it will look cutesy and mannered. It is also rude to point fingers.

When talking with someone, look into the eyes of the interlocutor. Well-mannered people know how to control their gaze and facial expressions, giving their faces a natural expression.

There are situations when during a conversation there is an irresistible desire to sneeze. You can stop yourself from doing this: just rub the bridge of your nose.

Handshake and character traits

A commanding handshake promotes submission. It can actually make it impossible to establish equal relationships. This handshake is typical for people who want to lead and subordinate. At the same time, the palm is directed downward, and therefore the partner is simply forced to turn the palm upward. It is recommended to respond to an authoritative handshake like this:

Grab your wrist from above and then shake it. This will allow for some time to unsettle the person who intends to command.

shake a person's hand with both hands. This handshake is possible between politicians because it symbolizes trust. This gesture, however, should not be used when meeting someone, because it can cause rejection in a stranger.

An indifferent handshake is a weak touch between the hands. Such a lifeless touch leaves the feeling that the person who makes such a gesture has a weak will.

A strong handshake is one that can cause pain. It is usually preferred by serious people whose main character trait is the desire to conquer.

A restrictive handshake, i.e. shaking with an arm that is not bent at the elbow, helps maintain a certain distance between people and leaves the personal area inviolable. This type of handshake is typical for people who are aggressive or who want to protect themselves from the pressure of others. If during a restrictive handshake only the fingers are inserted into the palm, then this indicates that the person does not feel confident.

A pulling handshake, in which one of the partners pulls the hand of the other, may mean that this person is so unsure of himself that he simply needs to be in a personal area.

I.N. Kuznetsov

Ecology of consciousness. Psychology: Hiding behind a barrier is a common human desire. We learn this in early childhood. A person seeks to protect himself from others. As children, we hide behind material objects - behind tables, chairs, furniture, behind our mother's skirt - if we feel that we are in a difficult situation. As we get older, we change our behavior.

Hiding behind a barrier is a common human desire. We learn this in early childhood. A person seeks to protect himself from others. As children, we hide behind material objects - behind tables, chairs, furniture, behind our mother's skirt - if we feel that we are in a difficult situation.

As we get older, we change our behavior. It becomes less obvious. A six-year-old child will not hide behind a closet; he will rather cross his arms tightly over his chest if a frightening situation arises. The teenager already knows how to slightly disguise this gesture. It relaxes hands and completes her cross-legged pose.

As we get older, we master the art of making a protective gesture even less noticeable to others. By raising one hand or crossing both hands on our chest, we are, in essence, forming a barrier, trying to protect ourselves from a threat or unwanted circumstances.

One thing is certain: when a person is nervous, negative, or defensive, he crosses his arms tightly across his chest. This posture indicates that a person feels threatened.

Research conducted in the United States on the crossed-arm posture has yielded interesting results. A group of students were invited to attend a course of lectures. One part of the group was told not to cross their arms or legs, and to sit calm and relaxed. At the end of each lecture, the researchers analyzed the degree of mastery of the material and the students’ attitude towards the lecturer.

The second part of the same group was ordered, on the contrary, to sit during the lecture with their arms crossed over their chest. The results showed that the group who sat with their arms folded understood the material 38 percent worse than those students who listened to the lecturer in a relaxed position. The second group also demonstrated a more critical attitude towards the lecturer and the topic of the lecture.

These studies have shown that when a listener crosses their arms, they not only begin to view the other person more negatively, but also pay less attention to what the other person is saying. This is why many training centers use chairs with armrests - this way, students are less tempted to cross their arms over their chests. Many people claim that they cross their arms over their chest simply because it is more comfortable for them. This is their habit. But any gesture evokes a feeling of comfort only when it matches your mood. This means that if you are negative, critical, nervous or trying to defend yourself, then the position with crossed arms will seem comfortable to you.

Remember that in nonverbal communication, any gesture has meaning not only for the one who makes it, but also for his interlocutor. It may be comfortable for you to sit with your arms crossed, your head tilted back and your back straight, but do not forget that your interlocutor will perceive such a position definitely negatively.

Standard Arm Cross

This position is characterized by crossing both arms over the chest in an attempt to “hide” from an unwanted situation. There are many positions with crossed arms, but in this book we will discuss only three basic ones. The standard crossing of arms is a universal gesture indicating a defensive or negative attitude towards everything in the world. This posture is characteristic of a person who is among strangers at a social event, in line, in a cafeteria, an elevator, or any other place where he does not feel safe.

During a recent lecture tour in the United States, I began one seminar by deliberately denigrating seven highly respected people who were well known to all the participants and present at the conference. Immediately after my verbal attack, I asked the seminar participants not to change their postures. Everyone was surprised when I showed them that 90 percent of the audience was sitting with their arms crossed.

And they took this pose immediately as soon as I began my attack on respected people. This clearly proves that people adopt such a posture when they do not agree with what is being said. Many speakers fail to achieve success because they do not notice that some of the audience is sitting with their arms crossed over their chests. An experienced lecturer understands that such a pose is a signal that it is time to somehow break the ice, increase the receptivity of the audience, and use some technique that can change the attitude of the audience.

When your interlocutor crosses his arms over his chest during a personal conversation, it means that you said something that he cannot agree with. In such a situation, it makes no sense to continue to insist on your own, although the interlocutor may verbally express his agreement. Remember that nonverbal signals do not lie, only words can deceive. In this case, you should delicately find out what caused your interlocutor’s disagreement and try to make the conversation more confidential. Don't forget that as long as his arms remain crossed, the negative attitude continues. This pose was caused by a certain attitude, and it can only strengthen it.

I can recommend you a simple but very effective method of dealing with this pose. Give your interlocutor something - a pen, a book, a notepad. Then he will be forced to change his position, open his palms and lean forward. This way you can make the other person more open and receptive. Another useful tip. Ask the other person to lean forward to look at something important. So he, too, will be forced to abandon his occupied position. You can lean towards the interlocutor with open palms and say: “I think you want to ask something?” - or “What do you think about this?” - and then lean back, indicating that you are expecting an answer.

By leaving your palms visible, you nonverbally show the other person that you want an honest, sincere answer. When I was a sales agent, I never started a presentation if I saw one of the prospects sitting with their arms crossed. Only after I managed to move them into a more open position did I get down to business. If this happened during the presentation, I, unlike other agents, had time to notice that the buyer had any objections, and responded correctly to the situation. Unfortunately, many people miss very important nonverbal cues that can negatively affect the success of negotiations.

Crossing arms, reinforced by clenching fists

If, in addition to the fact that your interlocutor simply crossed his arms over his chest, he also clenched his fists, then this indicates a hostile defensive position. This combination of gestures, combined with clenched teeth and reddened cheeks, indicates that a serious verbal or even physical attack may very soon follow. To remove hostility, and the situation is not entirely clear to you, it is useful to use gestures of submission. Extend your hand with your palm facing up.

The man shown in the picture is clearly hostile. The position of the man from the previous picture can be called rather defensive.

Forearm circumference

In this position, a person not only crosses his arms, but also tightly wraps his hands around his forearms. This position reinforces the standard pose and indicates a reluctance to open your hands under any pretext. People often grip their forearms so tightly that their knuckles turn white because natural blood circulation is disrupted. This posture is typical for people waiting to see a doctor or dentist, those who have decided to fly for the first time and are anxiously awaiting takeoff. This position indicates the containment of negative emotions.

In the courtroom, you can see how the prosecutor, in the heat of argument, crossed his hands clenched into fists on his chest, and the lawyer clasped his forearms with his hands.

A person's social status also influences the way he crosses his arms. A person who feels superior can show it without clasping his forearm. Let's consider the following situation. At the official reception, the CEO was introduced to several new employees whom he had not seen before. After greeting them with a dominant handshake, he positions himself at a social distance, with his hands behind his back in a hand-to-hand position, which is a sign of dominance, or with one hand in his pocket.

Such a person will not cross his arms for fear of appearing nervous or indecisive. For their part, new employees, after greeting the director, may cross their arms completely or partially, since the presence of the boss confuses them. This position is convenient for both the director and subordinates, since it is quite polite and at the same time speaks about the status of the participants in the conversation.

How will a department head meet with a young, up-and-coming manager who also has a sense of superiority and believes that he occupies an equally important position in the company? Most likely, after they exchange a dominant handshake, the young manager will cross his arms over his chest, keeping his thumbs vertical.

This is a defensive version of the arms extended horizontally, with both thumbs pointing upward. Henry Winkler used this gesture while playing the role of the “cool guy” in the TV series “Happy Days.” A thumbs up signifies self-confidence, while crossed arms help you feel protected.

Sales agents should be able to analyze the situation and understand from the buyer's gestures whether the tactics they have chosen are effective. If the thumbs up at the end of the presentation and the agent has noticed other positive gestures from the buyer, then you can end the negotiations and ask for an order. If, closer to the completion of the transaction, the buyer crossed his arms clenched into a fist over his chest, then asking for an order would be, at the very least, unreasonable.

It would be much more useful to continue the presentation and ask for some questions to find out what caused the buyer's dissatisfaction. If the buyer has already said the sacramental “no,” it will be very difficult to convince him to change his decision. Understanding body language will help you spot signs of negativity before they become verbal, giving you more time to use a different strategy.

Armed people rarely resort to defensive postures with crossed arms, since their weapons already provide them with sufficient protection. Police officers who carry pistols very rarely cross their arms, except when on duty. But then they usually clench their fists to demonstrate that no one will pass them by.

Partial barrier

The crossed-arms pose can sometimes seem overly obvious, as it reveals our fear to others. Most often we resort to a more delicate option - a partial barrier. This posture is characterized by the following: one hand is extended to touch or grasp the other, as shown in the figure.

A partial barrier can often be seen in meetings. A person who is new to a group may adopt this posture to hide his insecurity. Another popular partial barrier option is the habit of holding your own hands. This pose is typical for those who stand in front of a group of people, accepting an award or making a speech. Desmond Morris believes that this position gives a person a feeling of emotional security, which is familiar to him from his childhood, when his parents took his hand in frightening situations.

Disguised crossing of arms

Disguised crossing of arms is a very sophisticated form of gestures characteristic of people who constantly have to be in sight. These are politicians, sales agents, TV presenters - in short, those who do not want their nervousness or self-doubt to be noticed by the audience. As with any other hand crossing gesture, one hand is extended to touch the other, but instead of touching or grasping it, the person touches a handbag, bracelet, watch, cufflink or some other object located nearby.

But even in this case, a barrier still forms and gives a person a feeling of confidence and security. In the days when men wore cufflinks, they often adjusted them while crossing a room or dance floor, that is, at those moments when they were in plain sight. Since cufflinks are not as common as they once were, men began to adjust their watches, look in their wallets, rub their hands, play with a button on their shirt cuff, or come up with some other gesture that would allow their arms to at least symbolically cross in front of their body.

However, for an experienced observer, all these gestures are quite obvious, since they are all made with only one purpose - to hide nervousness and uncertainty. It’s very easy to notice gestures of uncertainty: stand in a group of people so that the newcomers are in front of your eyes. A good example is a dance hall. Imagine a young man walking across the entire court to ask a lady, or a man crossing the entire hall to receive an award.

Women use less obvious forms of disguised barriers because they usually have objects in their hands - handbags or bouquets - that perfectly hide nervousness.

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The most common version of such an implicit barrier is a glass of wine, clasped with both hands. Has it ever occurred to you that you can easily hold a glass by yourself? Using both hands at once allows an insecure person to form an almost undetectable barrier. By observing how people use masked barrier signals, we found that these gestures are used almost universally. Many well-known people use this technique without even realizing the true meaning behind their gestures. published

In the process of direct communication with each other, people use not only words, but also nonverbal signals. Hand gestures, facial expressions, body position in space - all this can tell about the interlocutor no less than he is ready to tell himself. We propose to analyze the meaning of gestures in communication between people and their interpretation from the point of view of specialists in the field of psychology.

What does a handshake tell you?

Shaking hands is a non-verbal gesture that is used as a greeting in many cultures. Often it also indicates the end of communication or the achievement of an agreement. This gesture is characteristic mostly of men, although business etiquette allows ladies to resort to it at the beginning and end of negotiations if representatives of the opposite sex are involved. In this case, the woman is always the first to extend her hand.

This gesture itself can tell a lot about the interlocutor. A strong-willed, open person greets with a strong handshake, squeezing the interlocutor’s hand quite tightly. People who are not very confident show a sluggish gesture, in which the hand is relaxed and the hand is located below. Such a handshake characterizes a person without initiative, lazy, and not inclined to make independent decisions. Touching the interlocutor’s hand, accompanied by slight squeezing, can also indicate the person’s delicacy and his ability to keep his distance. If you say hello briefly, the interlocutor puts his hands behind his back or puts them in his pockets, thus demonstrating superiority.

Open people extend their hand to their “vis-a-vis”, bending it at the elbow and wrist only slightly. Secretive or deceitful people, on the contrary, try to keep the limb bent. Their forearm remains pressed to the body, while the hand is directed almost vertically. If, when shaking hands, such a person tries to press the interlocutor’s hand down, this characterizes him as cruel and rather domineering. Independent individuals try to maintain maximum distance, practically without bending their hand when shaking hands.

Scratching

Any small and fussy hand gestures betray excitement, uncertainty or a desire to hide the truth. If the speaker scratches the side of his neck, this may mean that he is voicing a thought that he is not entirely sure of. Such a gesture on the part of the listener speaks of his distrust or desire to comprehend what was said more deeply.

By touching the earlobe, scratching and rubbing it during a conversation, a person expresses his desire to speak. He delicately waits for the right moment when he can join the conversation, but at the same time he expresses impatience in every possible way, sometimes even raising his hand, like a schoolboy in class.

Arms crossed on chest

It is generally accepted that crossed arms and legs are a kind of energetic protection that people resort to in various life situations. There are many gestures with which a person closes himself off from his interlocutor or the world around him. We propose to consider the most common of them.

1. The first pose is crossing your arms in front of your chest. The forearms are connected together, while the hands can clasp the shoulders or be pressed against the body. People often take this position in unfamiliar places where they do not feel completely safe.
2. The position in which the interlocutor crosses his arms over his chest indicates a negative attitude towards what is happening and may mean a reluctance to discuss a topic. Sometimes distrust of what a person hears causes a person to cross their arms over their chest. People who want to hide information resort to a similar gesture. The body position, when arms crossed on the chest are combined with palms clenched into fists, should be considered a state of defense, extreme tension. Reddened cheeks and constricted pupils indicate a readiness to fight back.
3. Public figures rarely openly display gestures that could betray their nervousness or desire to hide something. Meanwhile, they also tend to use similar energy protection. It is not difficult to distinguish camouflaged crossings. Ladies usually touch their wrist, turn the bracelet on their hand, and fiddle with the clasp on their watch. A man can adjust cufflinks or cuffs. A gesture in which a person holds an object at chest level with both hands looks similar. This could be a book or a folder with papers pressed to your chest, a bouquet of flowers, a glass of wine.

Fingers clasped

With your fingers clasped, your hands can lie in front of you or on your knees, or fall along the body if this is a standing position. Behind such a gesture lies disappointment and hidden hostility if a person sits with his hands in front of him or bringing them closer to his face. At the same time, the higher the hands are raised, the stronger the negative feelings. Sometimes such a gesture is perceived as attention to the interlocutor, because the person sitting opposite may smile and even nod. But this is an erroneous impression; with feigned facial expressions, the interlocutor is only trying to hide a negative attitude towards what is happening.

What does the hands behind your back gesture mean?

The position of the body, when a person's arms are pulled back and closed behind the back, is associated with a demonstration of superiority. An even posture, an unfolded chest and straightened shoulders indicate that the individual is quite happy with his position and is confident in himself. Such a gesture can also be considered as a high degree of trust in the interlocutor. Most likely, the person feels quite comfortable and does not feel any threat. This gesture is characterized by placing the palms on top of each other.

If a person puts his hands behind his back, clasping his wrist or forearm with one hand, this means that he is excited and trying to control himself. Moreover, the higher the grip, the stronger the emotions the individual experiences and the more difficult it is to restrain them. Hands placed behind the back can be combined with other gestures, such as scratching the back of the head. This indicates self-doubt and a feeling of awkwardness. In this case, by hiding his hands from the interlocutor, the person is trying to hide the state of stress, concern or excitement.

Hands in pockets

Many of us, as children, have heard our parents remark: “Take your hands out of your pockets, it’s not decent.” Indeed, a person who hides his brushes deeper during a conversation can hardly be called well-mannered. But often such a gesture betrays a desire to hide something. Most likely, the interlocutor is not telling much, is outright lying, or his reaction to the conversation does not correspond to what is being demonstrated.

A similar reaction is also observed among shy people who simply do not know where to put their hands during a conversation and are afraid that unnecessary gestures will reveal their nervousness. It is not difficult to understand this, since such a person behaves constrained, speaks little and reluctantly, keeps his shoulders down and his gaze turned downward.

If, when communicating, the interlocutor squeezes clenched fists into his pockets, it means that he is overwhelmed by anger and rage. The gesture means that it is difficult for a person to control negative emotions. He has exhausted all verbal arguments and is ready to move on to physical violence. Usually the threat is reflected in facial expressions: eyes narrow, cheekbones tense, teeth clenched.

Hand gestures with thumb emphasis

If the thumbs stick out upward, such a gesture indicates a desire to dominate. With such a non-verbal signal, the man lets the lady know that he is interested in her. He demonstrates his superiority and social status by placing his palms in his trouser pockets or behind his belt. The thumbs unambiguously indicate the direction where the object of male pride and dignity is actually located. Such a gesture can be regarded as a desire to please, conquer and conquer.

Without considering the gesture in a sexual context, we can say that hands in pockets and thumbs outside are a demonstration of power and superiority. Another dominance gesture looks like this: arms crossed over the chest and thumbs pointing up. Power and a sense of superiority simply overwhelm the individual if he takes such a pose.

When a person tightly clasps his shoulders with his hands, raises his thumbs, lifts his chin and looks into the face of his interlocutor, this indicates that he is confident in his own rightness and does not want to hear objections. Interestingly, these dominance gestures involving the thumbs are used by both men and women.

Open palm demonstration

Open palms are associated with honesty of intentions. According to research, businessmen who do not use open-palm gestures are less likely to succeed. People trust less those who keep their hands clasped in front of them, believing that they are not completely honest and are trying to hide something.

A person asking for something is more likely to achieve his goal if he accompanies his words with a gesture with his palms turned up. This gesture is more inviting because it does not pose a threat. If the interlocutor sees the back of the hand, then the request will be perceived as an instruction and may cause an antagonistic attitude.

What do hands pressed to the chest mean?

When a person declares his love or expresses sympathy, he puts his hand to his chest, as if saying that his words come from the heart. Often those who want to convince their interlocutor of the absence of malicious intent resort to a similar technique. Behind this gesture lies a desire to show the sincerity of feelings, but this does not always correspond to the actual intentions of the speaker.

By putting his fingers together, with his palms apart, the speaker wants to show his confidence and awareness of the issue. Perhaps he wants to emphasize significant points in his speech or wants to convince his interlocutor that he is right. If the speaker's head is slightly tilted back, this can be interpreted as a feeling of superiority.

This gesture has two options; when your fingertips point up or down. The first is usually used by people who want to express their thoughts, and the second by those who are listening. In the latter case, the gesture is regarded as negative and means that the interlocutor has his own opinion about what was said. It is no longer possible to convince him, since, as in the first case, this position of the hands indicates confidence in his decision.

Hands spread palms up

A gesture when a person, when communicating, shows his palms facing the interlocutor or a group of people, he seems to be saying: “I’ll be frank with you.” This is a non-verbal signal that encourages openness. It should be noted that such a technique is often used by unscrupulous people who want to instill trust in themselves. Therefore, such nonverbal gestures must be interpreted taking into account facial expressions and behavior. If the interlocutor has nothing to hide, he behaves naturally, his face is relaxed, his eyebrows are raised, and his hands are spread wide.

Putting your hands behind your head

The habit of throwing their hands behind their heads is characteristic of self-confident people who love to show their superiority. This gesture irritates many on a subconscious level, since it immediately reveals the interlocutor as a snob. Placing your hands behind your head during a conversation is a gesture that demonstrates confidence and superiority. If at the same time a person sits in a relaxed position, crossing his legs, then this is an amateur. As a rule, such a gesture is used when communicating with subordinates or equal in status.

The origin of this position is unknown, but psychologists are sure that in this way a person seems to sink into an imaginary chair, relaxing with his whole body. This manner of sitting does not always have a negative meaning. Often a person, tired from work or sitting for a long time, puts his hands on the back of his head, stretching his whole body. With such a gesture, he demonstrates that he feels quite comfortable in your company.

Most people touch their face during a conversation. Such gestures might look like:

• stroking the chin,
• rubbing the bridge of the nose or eyelid,
• touching the mouth with a hand or various objects,
• fingers touching temples,
• propping your cheek with your palm.

Most often, behind such movements lies a desire to conceal the truth or, on the contrary, distrust of the speaker. It is best to consider such gestures in combination with a person’s facial expressions, since the same touch can have different meanings.

For example:

1. A gesture like stroking the chin talks about making a decision. If the interlocutor uses his thumb, he is confident that he is in complete control of the situation. Nervous rubbing of the lower part of the face with the palm of the hand indicates that the person is not too happy with the proposed option, but an alternative has not yet been found.
2. Touching the lower lip demonstrates interest in the conversation or interlocutor. In this case, a person can run along the line of the mouth with one finger and actively rub this area. The most spontaneous listeners even pull back or curl their lower lip. Ladies, in order to attract men's attention to themselves, can run over their lips not only with their hand, but also with the tip of their tongue.
3. Many children use it on a subconscious level. Eg, fingers in mouth- a gesture that looks quite cute and means that the child feels the need for approval and support from others. However, adults sometimes make similar movements. In their case, such gestures carry the same semantic meaning as in children.
4. Some gestures that express emotions and feelings involve the use of various objects. For example, it is worth paying attention to the fact that the interlocutor brings the pen to his mouth. If the interlocutor is telling something, it may be a lie. If he listens to you, then with this gesture he expresses distrust. However, such actions may have another reason. Some people chew on a pencil or pen while thinking about a problem.
5. A fairly common posture during a conversation when hand supports cheek or chin. These gestures look approximately the same, but are interpreted differently. If the interlocutor listens attentively, resting his chin on his hand, most likely it is more convenient for him to comprehend what he heard. But when the listener relaxes with his hand on his cheek and his gaze is distracted, most likely he is bored and is looking forward to the end of the conversation.
6. An expression of disbelief in what has been said looks like twisting the earlobe, frequently touching the eyes or corners of the lips. This is also indicated by the index finger with which the listener props his cheek. By raising the index finger to the temple, a person demonstrates a critical attitude. Perhaps he feels distrust, or is not satisfied with the arguments given, analyzes what he hears, suspecting a catch.
7. Gestures like rubbing the neck or ear they talk about an unwillingness to listen anymore or that the topic is not very pleasant to the interlocutor. In the latter case, the person often takes a closed posture, crossing his legs or arms. He may also clasp his hands, shutting himself out from communication, or stand up abruptly, thereby demonstrating that the conversation is completed.

What gestures indicate deception?

When a person is telling a lie, you can tell by his gestures and facial expressions. Of course, it is unlikely that anyone will become very nervous, embellishing events a little. But if we are talking about a major deception or a desire to hide a serious misconduct, then answering direct questions, a person is unlikely to be able to hide all emotions.

A liar can be betrayed by shaking hands, a desire to immediately take a sip of water, or hastily lighting a cigarette. To hide a lie, the interlocutor will look away or, on the contrary, look intently into your eyes, demonstrating that he is honest with you.

A person who is telling a lie begins to blink frequently and make unnecessary movements, such as rearranging papers. It is believed that rubbing the nose also indicates insincerity, especially if a person does this action several times in a row. If the speaker's mouth is covered with his hand, there is also a high probability that he is lying. It is worth paying attention to such a gesture as rubbing the eyelid. Often he also tells lies, although perhaps the interlocutor himself does not trust you too much. The desire to close your mouth, as well as touching your lips with your fingers, are gestures that mean deception.

Conclusion

It is worth remembering that in non-verbal communication every gesture has meaning, since it is perceived by the interlocutor, often on a subconscious level. Perhaps you just like to keep your hands in your pockets or sit comfortably with your hands clasped. However, interlocutors or business partners will draw their own conclusions from this.