Men begin to appreciate a woman when they lose her. What happens to a man when he loses a woman? He is not the only man in your circle

The likelihood that you are one of those who is much higher than it seems at first glance.

Firstly, if you are interested in the topic of this article, then you already have similar suspicions. Well, secondly, the situation when a man does not appreciate or respect the woman who idolizes him is typical of our mentality.

You deserve more!

In my trainings, I often remind that no woman should settle for less than she deserves just to be with someone. To become happy and find the right life partner, you need to raise your standards and stop tolerating, humiliating yourself, and thinking that no one but him needs you anymore.

After all, in fact, everything is just the opposite - he doesn’t need you, and there are hundreds of men around who want to carry you in their arms. I think you got my message. All that remains is to determine, indeed.

I think you got my message. All that remains is to determine whether the man you love really does not value you.

So, you are wasting your time if at least one of the following 5 signs is present in your relationship.

1. You are not high on his list of priorities.

A man in whom romantic feelings are awakening must, on an instinctive level, raise his beloved (as well as her needs) to the top of his personal list of priorities.

Yes, each of us has our own personal interests, hobbies, friends, work, etc. But all this fades into the background when you fall in love.

If you feel like a “player from the bench”, who is only occasionally paid attention to, then the man does not value his relationship with you. And you definitely settle for less than you deserve.

2. You don't feel special.

A loving man will go out of his way to prove to his woman her exclusivity, to convince her that she is the most beautiful and desirable. This does not mean that he should dedicate poems to you every day, give you flowers and shower you with compliments (although that would be just wonderful!).

A simple SMS with the text “I love you,” a passionate kiss before leaving for work and the phrase “You look great today!” is enough to make you smile and understand that the man you love appreciates you.

If no such actions come from him, you are definitely content with less than you deserve.

3. You receive significantly less than you give.

It doesn't matter how much you love him. If he brings more negativity into your life than positive emotions, you must let him go. Or drive away. Depending on the situation.

If you argue with him more often than you hug and make love, if he often screams and accuses you of all mortal sins, and you are still with him, then you are settling for less than you deserve.

But situations often occur when a man not only does not appreciate and respect a woman, causing her moral harm. It can even lead to physical aggression. In this case, there can be no talk of any patience. You need to get away from him as soon as possible!

4. His love must be earned.

A man who truly loves will appreciate you for who you are, and not for what you do for him (or can do). If, in order to keep the focus of his attention on you, you have to wash, cook, clean, sexually please him (especially in a way that you yourself don’t particularly like), then you are settling for less than you deserve.

No, of course, all these things are present in ideal relationships. But at the same time, they are usually mutually agreed upon and distributed equally between the partners, and are not the responsibility of only one of them.

5. You constantly have to agree to his terms.

Nobody is perfect, that's clear. Proving that we are right is an instinct that awakens in us the desire to become a winner and force our opponent to retreat.

This same instinct manifests itself in relationships. But there must be a limit, or better yet, a balance. If you notice that in arguments with your partner you constantly have to give in, then you are sacrificing yourself. You suppress your self. You make concessions to please him and maintain his goodwill.

In this case, you must understand that if you are fighting to maintain a relationship alone, then you do not need it.

Stop settling for less!

The problem with a huge portion of today's young couples is that they don't know what a healthy relationship should look like. Men forget to appreciate women and over time they begin to think that this is normal.

In turn, women give in to everything just to keep this “treasure” near them, which in fact no one needs for nothing. If you are one of them, you will never be happy.
Remember these 5 signs that a man doesn't value a relationship and take the first step towards raising your self-esteem. Then you will learn to recognize when someone is falling below the standards you have set. And this will be a good reason not to let such men into your life.

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Roman was always lucky in life - everything came easy, it turned out with one click of his fingers, and it seemed that luck itself was coming into his hands. The most beautiful girls, easy money, a promotion at work - all this was a matter of course for Roman, not requiring any effort or effort. He lived easily, as if playfully, as if he was writing another draft, which, if anything happened, he could throw it out and start a new one.

Just by chance, Lena appeared in his life - serious, prudent and positive in all respects. She was 5 years younger than Roman, instantly fell in love with him and, hoping that he was “the very man of her life,” she was completely and completely invested in their relationship.

Lena was beautiful, smart and well-mannered - a real trophy for Roman’s collection of girls. He treated it as a pleasant addition to his life, which he could safely show off to his friends and hear admiring exclamations behind him.

Lena loved Roman truly, with all her heart and soul. She sacrificed herself, made concessions, was the first to put up, even if she was not to blame, tried to please him and do good in any way. She burned out in her feelings, not receiving a bit of reciprocity or reciprocal love. Roma could disappear without explanation for several days, did not pick up the phone when he was in a bad mood, and constantly pestered Lena with offensive jokes and nagging, which he considered extremely funny.

A year later, Lena could not stand it and, painfully cutting off all the connecting threads, left Roman. He didn't even try to win her back or save the relationship. He simply let go with a light heart, as if he had not lost a loved one, but had thrown a candy wrapper into the trash. He quickly switched to other girls, plunged headlong into entertainment and partying, and became increasingly surrounded by dubious friends and acquaintances. Life rushed by like a kaleidoscope, the colors in which instantly replaced each other.

Time passed, everything around changed, imaginary friends “disappeared” from Roman’s life, acquaintances who only needed benefits from him separated, a crisis began at work, and his salary was significantly cut. Nice girls who only needed Roman's money stopped even looking in his direction. He himself grew up, grew old and turned into that same man beaten by life, who so easily lost everything he had and was left with nothing.

He remembered Lena more and more often and, one day, during a period of overwhelming despair, he found her number in the phone’s address book and, hoping for practically nothing, dialed it. She answered almost immediately, as if she had been waiting for his call all these years.

They met the next day in a small cafe that used to be their favorite place. Lena has become even more beautiful and elegant. She had that same striking charm that is characteristic only of mature women. She, just as before, spoke quietly, smiled sweetly, and when she laughed, thin, pretty wrinkles appeared in the corners of her eyes.

Looking at her, Roman’s heart sank, and he realized more and more that the biggest mistake in his life was losing such a woman. Timidly crumpling the napkin in his hands, he looked at her carefully and quietly suggested trying to start all over again.

Lena seemed to freeze for a moment and quietly closed her eyes. Then, looking at Roman, she began to speak quietly. She talked about her feelings, how much she loved him, how she wanted to be together and tried to save their relationship. How she sacrificed herself, drowned in Roman and completely forgot that, besides him, she herself also existed.

She talked about the sleepless nights when he went into the unknown, about the unhealed wounds that he inflicted with his hurtful and cruel words. She also said that she could never trust the person who caused her so much pain again. They can never be together again.

Lena fell silent, lowered her head, and Roman saw that a tear was flowing down her cheek. Having brushed it away, Lena stood up and said in a choked voice: “Well, I have to go, all the best to you.” “And you too,” Roman answered hoarsely. “Lena, wait. I just want you to know that I will still be waiting. A year, two, three - it doesn’t matter how long. I will believe that you can forgive me, and we will still be together.”

Grabbing her bag, Lena ran out of the cafe. And outside, spring was increasingly taking a firm position, and the gentle May warmth was spreading through the bright streets. She deleted Roman's number forever. From the phone and from my memory.

But you suffered for it for a year and threw it away in tears! And he, as if nothing had happened!

First, indignation passes in a wave, and then the thought returns on repeat: “Why not? What if it changed? Or maybe he loves? and this is the biggest meanness of the situation.

The ex is like a boomerang - it flies unexpectedly and rarely past.

I'll tell you what happened to you and why he needs you again. Read, understand, remember!

So, 5 reasons for his comeback, which do not need to be followed:

1. Revenge

Whether it was a chance meeting or he saw a new photo on your profile - it doesn’t matter.

Such a man will sit on your head and dangle his legs.

2. Good sex

On the one hand, even a compliment addressed to you. You may even think that you were his “best.” But on the other hand..., yes, when he is in a new relationship, or has already stepped over it after breaking up.

Many people want sex, but few enjoy it.

If he felt good with you, but then wasn’t impressed, he’ll come for more. And, most likely, he knows what you want, what you fantasize about.

Women's gloss for the most part claims that such nostalgia is not a crime at all. Even the norm.

And he gives a bunch of arguments: it’s convenient, it’s safe, you can experiment, you can show initiative.

But let's be honest... You broke up because there was a reason. In men and women, one of the leading roles is also taken by spiritual intimacy.

Yes. Maybe it's convenient. But no one promised you pleasure like then. People are changeable not only in their views, but also in their preferences.

And no one guarantees your safety. Only God knows who he slept with after you.

Something that you chose to forget can also fuel his interest. And this encourages some to prove that he can still do it like no other.

Think carefully before agreeing. He’ll play enough and quit, and then you’ll have to close the next gestalt.

3. He's lonely

If we compare life, the second one often wins in terms of storyline.

Maybe he's bald (of course, not as cool as me :)). Or he has gained weight, fallen into depression, his life as a whole is not going well (this, fortunately, has passed me by).

They knocked his arrogance down, because they want better things, but you liked something more about him than “clothes.”

There are a couple of nuances. And let's be honest. He realized that you were generally fine and wants to return to this state AT YOUR EXPENSE.

Often this impulse is unconscious. Like happy memories of childhood that you always return to.

Honey, there's no need to save anyone. Everyone must work on themselves and their relationships at the same time. This is the whole point of personal growth.

4. You have become successful

You got what you dreamed of for a long time without his participation and help. This point is slightly different from the first point, although in one thing they are similar: success, like happiness, is different for everyone.

She wanted to travel, promoted a blog, organized an exhibition of her paintings and sold each one for a million, but he insisted that there was no talent, that you couldn’t make money from it.

I doubted, underestimated, instead of support and encouragement...

“Sveta has already opened a beauty salon, Masha paints pictures, but not as cheap as you, and Irka, my classmate has already traveled all over Europe, where do you care about her! And your ideas are so-so"

This is a success!

It doesn't matter who abandoned whom. He made me doubt myself - you couldn’t stay with such a man and you couldn’t return to him either.

Such men usually count themselves among the witnesses of your triumph. They believe that the main impetus to success was their pseudo-motivation.

If you have already tried on the role of “strong and independent” and your ex suddenly appeared on the horizon, think about it. It's time to seriously work on yourself.

Bring back your lost and forgotten femininity to attract worthy and strong men.

5. He wants to start over

Relationships with your ex are like relationships with an old frying pan.

You see something new and beautiful on the display case - with a non-stick coating and a heat-resistant handle, but you pass by. Because eggs are fried easier and tastier on an old lady.

Likewise with men, you have two options: create and develop in a new relationship with a new man, or get stuck in those that are simpler and more familiar, with the same one.

Honey, everything connected to the past takes energy to create the present. Think about it!

What are you missing?

If you look at his profile on Facebook again and remember before going to bed “how good it was then,” it’s time to diversify your life. Remember a forgotten hobby, go to school, upgrade your personality, meet friends.

But most importantly, live in the present!

Yes, there are good reasons why you can and sometimes even need to get in touch after a breakup. For example, you have a child together.

But this is a topic for another article. The approaches and psychology of interaction are also completely different. And a relationship is not even necessary for this.

Remember, you have thousands of chances to become happier.

With faith in you,
Yaroslav Samoilov.

A woman lives only with hope for the best. Some will say - strong, and others, for example, psychologists and relationship coaches - it’s her own fault. Now a little about why you can’t have illusions and save what has long passed.

A man's love is a fragile thing, and it has no place in inept hands. Fight for women's happiness Everyone is involved: psychologists who analyze relationships under a magnifying glass, and women who live with the desire to keep a man, and the men themselves, who strive to show lovely ladies that love cannot be built on desire alone. Alarm bells in relationships instill panic and horror. Yes, something happens between two lovers, and this something frightens the woman and alienates the man. If you want to hear: “What are you talking about! It's just complicated! Everyone encounters them! Your love is strong,” we will upset you, you won’t find that here. Everything is straightforward and honest, as it is, or rather, as it should not be, especially if you plan to live happily ever after. Below is a list of male signs that make it clear that he is losing interest.

All excuses

At the beginning of the relationship, all his free time was devoted only to you. Now he is increasingly late at work, gets sick with a cold, plays games, helps his mother, and the list goes on. Of course, no one is saying that your bouquet-candy period should last for an eternity, it’s just that if a man comes from more excuses than actions, the verdict is disappointing - he loses interest. He can long and persistently list to you the reasons why he cannot come to you, trying to say only one thing - “I don’t really want to.”

Few questions

Infatuation with a person means the inability to get enough of him. An enthusiastic man shows curiosity, interest, and tries to extract all possible information in order to get to know his beloved better. But the disinterested person is the exact opposite of what is written above: silent, aloof, eyes turned to the side, attention distracted. Naturally, before drawing sharp conclusions, you should make sure whether your loved one has internal worries. If everything is fine with him, then there is definitely something wrong with the relationship.

Indifference

A person who loves, or at least is in love, glows at the sight of the object of his adoration. This is when there is a fire in the eyes, a fire is raging in the heart, and a feeling of lightness in the body. It does not pass without a trace, fading only for a while, but even this is already the beginning of the end. If there is no desire to try for the sake of a loved one’s smile, then it's time to leave. No stupid excuses. You haven't cared about him for a long time. And this applies to both women and men.

Ignoring

If a man is silent, this does not mean anything. You can screw yourself up if before he was too talkative, tearing up your phone with calls and messages, but now he sends a couple of dry phrases. Further, the silence will take on a more global scale until it stops altogether. So if the conversation with your loved one is just your solo, take action: he becomes uninteresting in you.