When the husband is 7 years younger than his wife. A man is younger than a woman: a look at relationships from both sides. Celebrity couples with big age gaps
Very often, girls who are much younger have to make a choice. Remain “correct” in the eyes of the public or believe in yourself and your partner and try to build a real strong couple. After all, most often a man’s character does not depend on age. You can be responsible and reliable at eighteen and an absolute slob at forty-five. And when choosing a partner, you should focus not so much on the opinion of the public, but on your own feelings. If a man, even if much younger, shows himself as a true gentleman, if he is ready to take responsibility for a couple and family in the future, then it makes sense to try to create a couple with him.
How to behave with a guy who is younger
Very often, girls, dating young people younger than themselves, begin to experience feelings of jealousy. It seems to them that flocks of young enchantresses are hovering around their boyfriends, trying to win his love and attention. And suspicions, reproaches, and constant investigations begin about where he was and what he did. You shouldn't behave like that. This indicates lack of self-confidence and only irritates the partner. You need to remember that if a young man chose you, knowing that you are older than him, then everything suits him. He likes you the way you are. And there is no point in looking for betrayal where there most likely is none. On the contrary, you need to make the guy worry about the fact that he might be abandoned. You can sometimes be mysterious, sometimes angry, sometimes capricious. Don’t suffocate with your love, but show obstinacy. In this case, the young man will constantly think about you, about the relationship, and he will not even have the thought of finding another girl.
You shouldn’t go to the other extreme - turn into your boyfriend’s “mommy”. Take care of him, support him, constantly give advice. For an independent, self-confident man, such control is the main irritating factor. If for some time he puts up with him out of respect for you, then his patience will run out and he will find himself another girl who will allow him to take care of himself, and not command and control.
Otherwise, building a relationship with a guy who is much younger is no different from interaction in couples that are considered standard. Mutual understanding, support and the ability to understand and forgive a loved one are also very important.
The tradition of marrying a girl to a man who is much older than her dates back several centuries. Then it was believed that a large age difference would indicate a long and strong marriage, and a woman, thanks to her older husband, would feel like she was behind a stone wall. But times are changing. More and more often you can find a couple where the older woman is not the man. Last time I touched on the negative aspects of relationships in which the woman is older. But there are a lot of good things that I didn’t mention...
What positive features does a union have in which the girl is older?
The presence of a young man will certainly encourage a woman to take even better care of herself, choose stylish clothes and shoes, do anti-aging procedures, give up bad habits, and play sports. Any woman understands that a young man needs to fit in, otherwise he can easily be taken away. A man, in turn, will also strive to look as good as possible, because next to a beautiful girl he will need to look decent.
When paired with a more mature woman, it is easier for a man to realize himself in life, since his chosen one has more life experience, she is more serious and in many matters more insightful than him. The female sex begins to mature psychologically earlier than the male sex, since in order to continue the human race, nature has endowed women with mental invulnerability and moral stability. Only next to a strong woman does a young man become truly courageous. A woman is able to give advice and warn her partner against mistakes and wrong steps due to her greater life experience. She will be able to prevent relationships from unnecessary scandals.
No matter how strange it may sound, a man is subconsciously determined to have a relationship with a more mature woman. Remember, from childhood a man is raised by women: mother, grandmothers, aunts, sisters; later they are nannies and kindergarten teachers and school teachers. Therefore, it will be much easier for him to build a relationship with an adult woman.
As a rule, women only come to understand their true purpose over the years. In their youth, many girls like to live in an atmosphere of idleness and entertainment, but with age they increasingly gravitate towards family life. An older woman takes better care of the cleanliness and aesthetic beauty of her home, she is more skilled in the culinary field and approaches the process of planning and raising children with greater responsibility. Over the years, the girl becomes more feminine. She will be able to provide the young man with the much-needed comfort and coziness. It is precisely because of the lack of the latter that young couples break up.
Celebrity couples where the woman is older:
A couple where the girl is older will have the highest sexual compatibility. Sexologists have long noted that the peak of female sexuality occurs at approximately 27-30 years, and for men - at 21-23. His energy and ability to quickly recuperate fit perfectly with her experience. This way, both partners can regularly experience maximum sexual satisfaction.
And to conclude this big topic, I would like to address couples where the partner is older:
1. Ignore public opinion. When a man is younger than a woman, this is a common occurrence in our time. Don't worry about how your friends and family will react. The main thing is that you love and are loved and it’s good for you to be together.
2. Teach each other. The age difference only benefits both parties. You can give your young partner life experience; with you, he will have a greater chance of achieving high results in his career. And he, in turn, will charge you with energy and introduce you to new trends in the modern world that you cannot learn from an older man.
3. Don't be jealous of your younger partner. Jealousy arises from lack of self-confidence. When a man is younger than a woman, there is room for constant suspicion. However, he chose you, which means he needs you and only you. But at the same time, do not give him complete freedom; go to various events together.
4. Feel the ease of relationships. If a man is younger, he is not inclined to reproach you, instruct you and limit your actions. He has a simpler approach to life, so you will have more fun. In addition, you will feel more confident and complete next to a young man.
5. Don't be afraid to build serious relationships. According to statistics, 53% of marriages in which the husband and wife are the same age break up after 2-3 years. The average length of marriages where the man is younger than the woman is 12-16 years. But many couples live together for 20 or 25 years.
6. Enjoy your sexual relationship. Youth and experience combined will bring you many pleasant moments.
Many unions in which the girl is older than the young man lead to marriage and long, happy family relationships. Cast aside all doubts and love your soulmate, even if she is much younger or older than you. Don't pay attention to other people's opinions, because this is your life and you should live it the way you want it.
I don't remember ever liking older men. On the contrary, I was attracted to young men, but I could not even imagine that my husband would be seven years younger than me... We met at work and immediately liked each other. And when it turned out that he was twenty and I was twenty-seven, both were extremely surprised: he seemed older to me, I seemed younger to him. This difference did not bother me, but Sergei was clearly uncomfortable. Probably, the stereotype worked: the woman is older, and even so much... But I wanted to take a risk.
One day everyone was celebrating our boss’s birthday, and then we and another couple decided to take a walk around the city at night. As a result, we ended up at someone’s house, and there, in a rather cramped environment, we had our first sex. Not very successful, I must say. I thought there would be a continuation, we would start dating. But Sergei pulled away, and when I tried to talk to him, he replied: “Don’t take all this seriously - I just wanted to try with an older woman.”
Several months passed before Sergei took a step forward. Our romance developed rapidly, and gradually we became a “couple”. We tried everything imaginable, decided on any experiments, discovered new pleasures for ourselves. I absolutely loved what was happening to us, I enjoyed it: I was in love and obsessed with sex...
No man has ever been so attentive to me before
It is not surprising that for the first time I experienced an orgasm with Sergei. We started living together, and a couple of years later we got married. He made a very original proposal: on my birthday, I came home and found a note that led to the next note, which indicated where the next one was hiding. The whole house was filled with tips, nice little things and gifts. The last clue led me to a voice recorder with the inscription “Turn me on.” I turned it on and heard the most gentle proposal to get married...
I accepted him without questions: I was always sure that it was right, that life would work out and, despite his age, he would become a good husband, with whom I would feel calm and reliable. Besides, I was in love!
Two years later our son was born. Surprisingly, the child, in a sense, equalized us: we became parents for the first time, and now there is no this notorious difference between us. Sometimes my husband jokes: if I don’t agree to a second one, he’ll have to look for a younger wife...
For me, our relationship is an incentive to take care of myself and try to look good.
The age difference is generally a frequent reason for jokes. When I try to send him to the gym, he invariably objects: if he loses weight, the girls will immediately attack him, and then I will have a bad time. I can't say I'm not afraid of this. I understand that relationships can break down and end at any age and in any couple. But I don’t see much difference between my marriage and the marriage of, for example, peers. And my husband doesn’t give me reasons to be jealous.
Sexuality and experience are acquired in long-term and sincere relationships. Casual sex is just dating. Depth, poignancy, knowledge and full disclosure of yourself and your partner are all the result of an ongoing relationship. After the birth of a child and still only four years of official marriage, our sex life subsided a little.
But he still needs a lot of sex, and he likes to emphasize this. Usually I don't mind, although sometimes I want to sleep more - you see, it's quite a standard story for a long-term marriage. I have a philosophical attitude towards the future... because for us it has already happened! For me, our relationship is an incentive to take care of yourself and try to look good. But together we are trying to ensure that they are sustainable and develop. For both of us, this is the string on which our lives rest. I like it.
Good day! This is the situation, I met a young man (love at the right sight), he came to go to college where I work, and over time a relationship began. Everything would be fine, but I’m 25 and he’s 18, plus I have a child. I told him about my daughter, he accepted and treats her wonderfully. But my parents endlessly tell me that this is not serious, that this is not what I need. But I can’t help myself, I can’t imagine how I would be without him now.And naturally I worry that he will eventually find someone younger. I don’t know what to do with my parents?! But I also understand that maybe they are right, that I need to break up with him, but I love this person.
He is 7 years younger
Maria, hello!Your request is very laconic, but nevertheless you raised several important issues in it. The question of your boundaries, the question of growing up (psychologically) and the question of separation from your parents, the question of your attitudes.
You have no doubt that you love a young man - and this is wonderful, it means that you can listen to yourself and be aware of your feelings. It costs a lot.
And it seems that everything would be great if you learned to define and protect boundaries beyond which you could not let other people in. Families where there is an attitude that everyone should come to some common opinion and that there is someone who knows “how to do it” are codependent. You are (for now) very dependent on the opinions of your family.
Now you seem to doubt which is better - to listen to yourself or believe your parents. Of course, only you can decide this. But you need to understand that when you act based on the motives of other people, you are not living your life, but theirs. They have some reason not to trust this young man, perhaps they just don’t like him. What does this have to do with you, I would like to ask? Whose problem is it – their feelings for your loved one? Yours or theirs?
Many people live with the understanding that there is some kind of problem. Many of these many make a decision every day (perhaps unconsciously) to live with a problem, because solving it means creating sometimes an even more difficult problem. This is exactly how growing up happens. If we solve a problem, we grow; if we don’t solve it, we also grow. But if we constantly avoid the problem itself (for example, by convincing ourselves that this is how it should be), then we stand still. And then nothing changes.
With another man, most likely, the same story will repeat itself - your same fears, the same dissatisfaction on the part of your parents.
For example, about the age difference. This is just an installation (got it from your parents or built it yourself). It makes no difference how many “passport” years someone is. It is important how a person feels, how much vital energy he has, what interests he has, what his lifestyle is. A man can always find someone younger/prettier/smarter/better/taller/shorter, etc., etc. Especially! if a woman is afraid of it. “Afraid” here is very close to “expects”, and what is expected often comes true.
I would like to wish you to have the courage to change something. I will be glad to help you in this matter. You have a desire, otherwise you would not be writing here on the forum.
Sincerely,
Olga Akimova
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The psychological relationship in a couple is influenced by many factors.
Just like the age difference: the man is older than the woman.
These couples have always become the subject of discussion among friends, relatives and neighbors.
Cases when there is a difference between partners in a couple are not uncommon, but still, this topic is relevant in our times.
In couples where the older man is 8 years apart in age, there are usually no misunderstandings or conflicts. The difference between husband and wife in this case is considered optimal. There are various reasons why women prefer a man who is much older.
1. Feeling of security
From a psychological point of view, every woman dreams of feeling like a little girl who receives maximum care and warmth. Filial feelings push many girls to marry a more responsible man.
This is an ideal option if a woman does not have the opportunity to solve problems on her own, which will subsequently fall on the shoulders of a husband who is wise in life experience.
2. Stronger relationships
Let many marriages break up between spouses with an age difference. But according to statistics, they are stronger than between peers.
The age difference is 10 years - the man is older than his wife, he is ready for compromises and concessions, not paying attention to minor whims.
This is important for family life, because young people of the same age category are selfish in their relationships with each other.
3. Material side
As a rule, an older partner has already established himself in life, is ready for family life, and has a certain financial base. He has already received an education and a decent job. And he can take care of his young wife and future children.
Most young couples are just starting their career path, studying together, which can become a serious obstacle to romantic relationships, which are easily broken up by everyday life and problems.
Of course, in a relationship where the husband is several or more years older than the wife, there are advantages. But there is also a downside.
Usually such husbands are more powerful, for them the family comes first, and they demand the same from the woman. But she, alas, may not be ready to devote herself entirely to the family hearth.
Thus, numerous films about the age difference of an older man fully reveal the relationship between couples.
Big difference in age
If, for example, a man is 15 years older, this already indicates a large age difference. And here the question often comes to mind - what could have pushed two different people into a relationship?
Most skeptics are sure that in this type of relationship there is no place for love and sincere feelings.
- Young girls consciously enter into a relationship with a more mature partner in order to receive certain security. They are attracted by respectability and the opportunity to move in higher social circles.
- An older man's age difference of 20 years is a rather rare situation when he is trying to assert himself in the company of a young and pretty girl.
- Usually, mature, accomplished gentlemen start relationships when their sex life is on the decline. Additional emotional outbursts make him feel ten years younger and full of energy.
- Often such relationships do not have a long-term nature. Basically, many men already have stable families, where the age of the children is not too different from the age of their passion.
Marriage unions between couples where there is a significant difference in age are not excluded.
And if a man 20 years older can maintain harmony not only in everyday life, financially, but also intimately, then a good relationship with excellent mutual understanding is quite possible.
Does the strength of jealousy depend on age?
A young girl will have to prepare for the fact that her lover, 15-20 years older, will not be able to fully take part in his hectic life.
Discos and noisy parties are excluded. In addition, such men are capable of being overly jealous and noticing betrayal even where there is none.
A woman will have to put up with sudden outbursts from a partner who wants additional attention and gratitude.
There are also advantages to a big age difference. Usually, mature men easily find a common language with the parents of a young girl; they know how to please her family and her first and foremost.
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Their willingness to care and generosity can be on a serious scale - expensive gifts, trips to luxury restaurants, trips to other countries.
Does a couple have a chance if the man is younger than the woman?
Where did this maxim even come from: the only good thing for marriage is an age difference in favor of the husband? Most likely, this arrangement of age differences is dictated by the instinct of procreation. After all, it is characteristic of humans in the same way as other representatives of all life on Earth.
Therefore, if a man is more than two or three years younger than a woman, society views such a relationship as an anomaly. But in fact, are marriages in which there is a more or less large age difference with a bias towards the wife really doomed and meaningless?
- The wife is 3-8 years older than her husband
Statistics say that a relationship between a man and a woman who is no more than 7-8 years older than him can be quite long-term. Here, a lot depends on how fulfilled they both are in life, whether there is a great difference between them in their views and attitudes towards various aspects of life together, and whether they view family values in the same way.
There is a risk, of course, to build a “mother-son” relationship, but this also happens in couples with an age difference towards the man. By the way, psychologists assure that such unions, like father-daughter relationships, are the most durable.
An example of a successful marriage in which the wife is no more than 8 years older than her husband is Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell. The difference between them is measured by six years. And yet, they have been together for a quarter of a century. And this, you see, is a deadline. True, their relationship remained unofficially registered. But, as Russell admits: “ Why seal a marriage that is already strong?
If a woman is 9-15 years older than a man
There are also many examples of fairly long-term unions in this category. Larisa Dolina and Ilya Spitsyn (13 years old), Irina and Sergei Bezrukov (9 years old), Nonna Grishaeva and Alexander Nesterov (12 years old), Hugh Jackman and Deborah Lee Furness (13 years old). Surely, among your friends you will find at least one example of a happy family with such an age difference. Well, this confirms that all ages are submissive to love. And a woman, regardless of the number of years she has lived, can seduce any man, provided that she is confident in her attractiveness.
However, psychologists warn: unions in which there is a large age difference with an advantage in favor of the wife fall apart more often than usual. Czech psychotherapist Miroslav Pzlak spent ten years studying the lives of three hundred families in which the woman is 10 years or more older than the man.
“According to psychotherapist A. Poleev, if a man is a sufficiently large number of years younger than a woman, then he can get a positive experience from this relationship. But they should last no more than 3-4 years. »
That is, Poleev said that we need to break up in 4 years - that means we need to break up??
How easily he wrote this.. What if people love each other?
Anastasia, read the comment, psychologist E.G. Panarina answers you.
Of course, it is not surprising that such unions break up more often than usual. But if adults love each other, if nothing bothers them except the difference in age, then listening to public opinion in this case is stupid. Society is simply envious of such couples. That's why he condemns.
Features of relationships if a woman is older than a man
Traditionally, it so happened that in almost all nations of the world, men took young girls as wives.This has been the case for many centuries. This is natural.
And his young wife took care of him, giving him rest from everyday work, and gave birth to his children.
Moreover, there should have been a lot of offspring. It was. Naturally, the marriages were not ideal. There were pros and cons to being an older man.
But times have changed. Nowadays there are all kinds of marriages where the woman is older than the man. They are becoming more and more common. This doesn't really surprise anyone. And they live quite happily. But, unfortunately, there are no ideal couples.
Features of such a union
Of course, the age difference can vary. For example, a year or two. Although, it should be noted that girls always mature earlier.
Even in couples where the spouses are the same age, the woman will always be older. This is their psychological feature.
A small age difference doesn't change the weather. But if a woman is 4 years older than a man, then this is already felt. Both her partner and herself.
- You may catch yourself thinking that the couple has different interests and nothing to talk about.
- Or, for example, a young husband is drawn to the company of friends, but his wife wants him to spend all his time at home, only with her alone.
The older a woman is, the more she desires to be at home, and not in the company of girlfriends and friends.
There are, of course, exceptions, but the main trend is that ladies become homebodies over the years. That's why conflicts arise.
This happens even when the age difference is very small. What can we say if a woman is 7 years older than a man?
Positive sides
Here the conversation is still about the advantages of such a marriage. So, what are the benefits of a wife being older than her husband?
The most important advantage of an adult wife is that she is wiser.
She can find a way out of those conflicts that would lead to the breakup of a family with a peer or with a young girl.
And this advantage has the most favorable effect on life together.
Here the maternal feelings of an adult wife play a positive role. She forgives her young lover a lot.
As a rule, adult women have already achieved success in life.
If a woman is 6 years older than a man, she already has her own income. She has already made a certain career.
This fact eliminates the streak of lack of money, which often happens in cases where spouses are the same age and both are just getting on their feet.
The young husband, in this case, can easily concentrate on work, having a reliable rear behind him.
What are the advantages of such a union for a lady?
We have listed all the benefits related to either living together or having a man. But there are also those that directly affect women.
For example, when a woman is 7 years older than a man, she willy-nilly has to pay attention to her appearance. She starts visiting gyms to get her figure in order.
This cannot but affect her health in the most positive way. She visits beauty salons and maybe even resorts to plastic surgery.
After all, she needs to look great next to her young lover.
Well, now a little about the sad
But the fact that a woman is 6 years older than a man, or 7 years, or 10, has its downsides.
The biggest difficulty is that childbearing functions, alas, fade away over the years.
Although there are cases where women give birth at a very advanced age, for the majority, too late pregnancy and childbirth pose a health risk.