What unlucky people they are

Believe me, some thoughts and actions lead to unhappiness faster than others.

We invite you to look at yourself from the outside and think about whether these 10 habits are your own. You have to be especially careful with them because they drive you into hopeless depression. More precisely, you make yourself unhappy, instead of rejoicing here and now.

Waiting for the future

The phrase “I will be happy when...” is the most fast way Unfortunately. In fact, it doesn’t matter what exactly you are waiting for - it could be a promotion, a salary increase, or a new relationship. With this attitude, you put yourself too dependent on circumstances - in this case, even any changes do not lead to happiness.

Don't waste your time waiting for something, instead, focus on being happy right now, in this moment, because there is no guarantee that things will change for the better in the future.

Try to be no worse than others

Jealousy and envy are incompatible with happiness, so if you're constantly comparing yourself to others, it's time to stop.

In one study, the majority of respondents said they would be happy with having less money if other people also had less. Be careful with this kind of thinking as it will not make you happy and, more often than not, will have the opposite effect.

Spending too much time and effort on acquiring “stuff”

Plenty of research shows that material things do not make us happy.

When chasing things becomes a habit, you are likely to become unhappy. At some point, you will be very disappointed even if you get what you want. After a short euphoria, there comes a moment of realization that in the pursuit of material things you have missed out on something truly worthwhile - family, friends and activities that bring you joy.

Stay home

Of course, when you are not happy with life, you want to avoid other people. But this is a huge mistake, since communication is one of the best cures for the blues.

We all have moments when we don't want to stick our heads out from under the covers, but when this becomes a trend, this behavior negatively affects your entire life. If you make an effort and overcome the pull of the sofa, you will immediately notice a difference in your attitude.

Build yourself upvictim

Unhappy people tend to know by default that life is difficult and uncontrollable. The problem with this philosophy is that it perpetuates feelings of helplessness, apathy, and reluctance to make a difference.

You do not only person, with whom troubles happen, but you can maintain control over your life as long as you are ready to act.

Pessimism

Nothing fuels unhappiness like pessimism. As they say, “don’t call out trouble, otherwise it will come”: if you predict in advance that everything will be bad, believe me, it will be so.

Pessimistic thoughts are hard to get rid of until you think about how illogical they are. Force yourself to look at the facts and you will see that things are not as bad as they seem.

Complain

The habit of complaining has a self-reinforcing effect. By constantly talking - and therefore thinking - about how bad things are, you feed your negative attitude.

While talking about what's bothering you can help you feel better, there's a fine line between complaining for therapeutic benefits and complaining that feeds sadness. Besides the fact that such whining makes you unhappy, it also scares other people away.

Making a mountain out of a mountain

Troubles happen to everyone. The difference is that happy people they see in them a temporary setback, unhappy people see in them yet another confirmation that life is terrible and unfair.

Delay solving problems

Happy people are responsible for their actions. Unhappy people, on the contrary, see problems and mistakes as a threat, and therefore try to hide them. Problems tend to accumulate or reach alarming proportions.

Don't improve

Because unhappy people are pessimistic and don't feel like they have control over their lives, they tend to sit back and wait for something to happen to them.

Instead of setting goals, learning and improving themselves, they just keep waiting and then wonder why their lives never change.

Be happy!

Happiness comes in many different forms, which are sometimes difficult to define. On the contrary, the state of unhappiness is very easy to recognize. When people are unhappy, it’s hard to even be around them, let alone work and live. By the way, certain destructive habits very quickly lead to this state. Watch yourself so that they do not become your usual actions.

1. Waiting for the future

The statement “I will be happy when...” is one of the simplest such habits. The way you finish this sentence has no meaning special significance. You get hung up on conditions and circumstances, and they do not lead to happiness. Don't waste your time waiting for something. Instead, focus on being happy with your life right now.

2. Materialism

Material things will not make you happy. If that's what you're used to chasing, you're probably very unhappy. First of all, it's just instant gratification, and it wears off quickly. And secondly, you acquire material things at the expense of more valuable things that can bring you real happiness, such as family, friends and hobbies.

3. Staying at home

When you feel unhappy, you want to avoid other people. This is a huge mistake, since communication, even when you don’t want it, perfectly saves you from such a state. We all have those days when we want to be silent and be in silence, but the moment it turns into a habit, self-destruction begins.

4. Perceiving yourself as a victim

Unhappy people tend to believe that life is hard and uncontrollable: “I can’t do anything about it.” The problem with this approach is that it increases feelings of helplessness, and helpless people are less likely to want to take action to improve things. Remember that you are not the only person facing difficult times, and you are fully capable of taking control of your own life.

5. Pessimism

Nothing fuels unhappiness like . The problem with a pessimistic attitude is that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy: if you expect bad things to happen, you're more likely to get them. Negative thoughts are difficult to banish unless you realize how logical they are. Look at reality and you will see that everything is not as terrible as you think.

6. Complaints

Complaining and whining are also destructive. Regularly thinking about how bad things are for you only reinforces this feeling. Voicing your concerns can help you feel better, but there is a fine line between needing to talk and complaining. In addition to the fact that you are dissatisfied with yourself, you are also regularly dissatisfied with everyone around you.

7. Ignoring

Happy people are always responsible for their actions: when they make mistakes, they admit it. Unhappy people consider problems and mistakes to be almost fatal, so they try to turn a blind eye to them and pretend they don't exist. However, problems tend to get worse when they are ignored.

8. The ability to make a mountain out of a molehill

A bad streak in life happens to everyone. The difference is that happy people perceive it as just a temporary obstacle, while unhappy people- as another confident proof that everything is terrible and catastrophic, and they themselves are practically doomed.

9. Reluctance to improve

Since unhappy people are pessimists who do not know how to control their lives, they usually sit back and wait for something to happen to them. Instead of setting goals, gaining knowledge and improving themselves, they simply remain idle, and then are surprised that there are no changes in their lives.

10. The desire to be no worse than others

Envy and jealousy are incompatible with happiness, so if you constantly compare yourself to others, you will never be satisfied. Beware of this, because it will not make you happy and, most likely, will only bring the opposite effect.

Happiness comes in different forms and sometimes it can be difficult to feel it right away. On the other hand, misfortune is always easy to identify.

Misfortune is fatal to everyone. Both for the unfortunate person and for the people around him. Stanford's Terman's famous study lasted eight years and found that being around unhappy people was associated with poorer health and shorter lifespan.

Life circumstances have little to do with happiness, because happiness is the result of habits and outlook on life. Psychologists from the University of California who study happiness have found that genetics and life circumstances determine only about 50% of a person's happiness. The rest depends on the person himself.

“The Constitution gives people the right to happiness. But you must catch him yourself." - Benjamin Franklin

10 Habits of Chronically Unhappy People

When people are unhappy, it's much harder to be around them, let alone working together. The feeling of unhappiness causes a person to fall into a vicious circle that holds him back from achieving all that he is capable of.

And happiness is determined by habits (in thoughts and deeds), so you need to carefully monitor them to make sure that they do not drag you into the abyss.

Some habits lead to unhappiness more than others. There are ten habits to be particularly wary of.

1. Expect the future

Convincing yourself: “I will be happy when...” is one of the most destructive habits. The way the statement ends has no meaning of great importance(this could be a big incentive wage or new relationships). Because of this, a person begins to pay too much attention to circumstances, and improving circumstances does not lead to happiness.

Don't waste time waiting for something that seems to affect your mood. Instead, focus on being happy right now, in the present moment.

2. Spend too much time and effort buying “stuff.”

People living in extreme poverty experience happiness when their financial situation improves. Eat a large number of research that shows that material things do not make you happy. The habit of chasing things ultimately leads to dissatisfaction with life and disappointment.

Friends, family and hobbies can make you happy.

3. Avoid people

When a person feels unhappy, there is a temptation to avoid the company of other people. This is a huge mistake because socializing is great for lifting your mood.

We all have days when we want to be alone and not talk to anyone. When this behavior becomes a trend, it destroys the mood.

4. Feel like a victim

Unhappy people tend to find life to be both difficult and uncontrollable. In other words, “Life is difficult for me and I can’t do anything about it.” The problem with this philosophy is that it reinforces feelings of helplessness, and people who feel helpless are less likely to take action to make things better.

The thing to remember is: You are not the only person to whom bad things happen, and everyone has the opportunity to take control of their future. You just need to take action.

5. Pessimism

Nothing fuels unhappiness better than pessimism. The problem with a pessimistic attitude, in addition to the fact that it is highly dependent on mood, is that it is realized in life: if a person expects bad events, then most likely bad events will happen.

Pessimistic thoughts are difficult to discard until you understand how illogical they are. Force yourself to look at the facts and you will see that things are not as bad as they seem.

6. Complain

Complaining is a self-reinforcing behavior. By constantly talking - and therefore thinking - about how bad things are, a person confirms his negative beliefs.

Talking about things that bother you can make you feel better, but there is a fine line between complaining and trying to identify the source of your problems.

7. Exaggerate

Bad things happen to everyone. The difference is that happy people see it as a temporary failure, while unhappy people see it as further proof that their life is a complete nightmare.

8. Avoid solving the problem

Happy people are responsible for their actions. When they make mistakes, they remain in control of themselves and the situation. On the other hand, unhappy people find problems and mistakes threatening, so they try to hide them. Problems tend to get bigger when they are ignored.

The more you do nothing to solve the problem, the stronger the feeling of helplessness and inability to determine your life.

9. Sitting with difficult hands

Because unhappy people are pessimists and lack control over their lives, they tend to sit back and wait for life to happen to them. Instead of setting goals, learning and improving themselves, they just keep waiting and then wonder why nothing is changing in life.

10. Compare yourself to others

Jealousy and envy are incompatible with happiness, so if you are constantly comparing yourself to others, then it's time to stop. In one study, the majority of subjects said that they would be fine living with less income, but only if everyone else's income also decreased.

Beware of this type of thinking as it will not make you happy and, more often than not, has the opposite effect.

Unhappy people... There are so many of them in the universe...


Unhappy people are usually angry and cruel...

But it’s because of pain... People break because of pain...
Fate doesn’t give everyone souvenirs on a platter...
Not everyone is able to rise from their knees and shake themselves off,
And in response to the world, for a worthy lesson, smile...

Unhappy people did not look for reasons in themselves
And they constantly gave advice to other people...
But why, without building your own island of hope,
Trying to try on someone else's clothes?

Yes... Not everyone will see the reflection of heaven in a puddle...
But happiness is stored in people’s souls from birth,
And someone bombarded him with indifference, revenge...
Happiness lies under the rubble in an invisible place...

Unhappy people... They need help at least a little...
After all, having thrown away the trash from the soul, there will be a place for God...
After all, the sun that is in people’s hearts also warms and shines...
Unhappy people love to be rude on the Internet...

But it’s because of pain... People bite because of pain...
Let's not become like that in response...
And we must live not out of spite, we must live for the sake of..., in the name of...
Unhappy people, it suits you to be different!!!

Reviews

"Unhappy people... There are so many of them in the universe...
Feelings in a vulnerable soul are gradually erased...
Replacing warmth with cold, words with reproaches,
Unhappy people, as a rule, are angry and cruel" - A very true and very smart thought. Yes, a person’s soul is built gradually and depending on a person’s aspirations, i.e. his predisposition, it can become enlightened, i.e. become kinder and more loving, or vice versa , to become contaminated with evil thoughts or deeds is to become cold, and then happiness will not be seen. But a person, regardless of his predisposition, can, through the efforts of his will, try to change the direction of his aspirations - this is difficult at first, but then the person, moving towards goodness, and having understood the goodness of this path, will no longer want to. back. Happy is the one who is somehow on sunny side. Everything seems so clear and simple, but many people do not consider the movements of the soul to be real at all, but only external achievements, successes in life are real, and they are always ready to adjust the soul to the needs of enrichment or simply give it up to the discretion of their animal passions, and this verse is about them.

You are a very spiritual girl, Irina, and your poems, in their lightness and beauty, are very reminiscent of Yesenin’s. I accidentally came across one verse in classmates with an indication of the author on the “Meaning of Life” forum and I really liked it, after I came across another verse there, I became interested and began to search the Internet for the author and realized that it was not in vain. I have read the poems of many authors, and I consider S.A. Yesenin to be a truly great poet, who both breathed and wrote (according to his own statement). Now here are your poems, they also come directly from the soul and plus they are very purely clear and easy, like everything ingenious. Regardless of your external successes in life, it is clear from your poems that you have understood the main meaning of life and should always be happy by being in kindness and love. I wish you further success in your work and in life.

The daily audience of the portal Stikhi.ru is about 200 thousand visitors, who in total view more than two million pages according to the traffic counter, which is located to the right of this text. Each column contains two numbers: the number of views and the number of visitors.

Everyone around is talking about it. How to be happy, but not everyone knows what kind of unhappy people they are.

1. Striving for excellence

The vast majority of unhappy people are perfectionists. They constantly strive for the ideal and are upset that it turns out to be further and further from it. No matter what they do, they always notice that someone is doing something better, that someone is more successful at something than they are. Therefore, if they experience moments of happiness, it is extremely rare and short-lived.

A person cannot live in isolation, he needs to communicate. As a rule, he chooses his social circle to suit himself. Therefore, if you want to find out what kind of unhappy people they are, find one unfortunate person and follow his social circle. Remember, never meet such people. No matter how cheerful a person you are, constant interaction with them will make you exactly the same. If such thoughts come from within you, you will have to work on yourself. By the way, unhappy people never work for themselves.

3. The habit of unhappy people is to live not now

Unhappy people either constantly remember the past, constantly worrying about it, or they constantly dream or worry about the future. Moreover, most often, both in the past and in the future, it is the negative that attracts us. We chew on old grievances, we dwell on our fears about what has not yet happened and may not happen at all. All this is a persistent habit of unhappy people and prevents us from continuing to live happily. Remember that there is a time for sadness - we have survived everything, and we move on.

4. Constant comparison with others

This is another bad habit of unhappy people. They constantly compare their achievements and what they have with others. But in fact, anyone can do something better than you. And the more of these differences are in someone’s favor, the more painful the comparison turns out to be. Why engage in self-criticism? Isn't it better to focus on yourself?

Usually we remember and notice only the bad things around us: how unlucky we are, how we screwed up, etc. Over time, it becomes such a habit that it becomes a way of life. Don't believe me? Go to the store, pharmacy, bank and watch the old ladies. For the most part, they represent a vivid example of such a life. Don't you want to look like this in 50 years? Change your way of thinking now.

6. Considering the opinions of others

What will people say? This is the most unnecessary question in the life of any person. But, unfortunately, most people are guided through life by this. Do you feel like everyone is watching your behavior and just waiting for you to screw up? In fact, no one really cares about you. Even if they notice it, they won’t remember it for long. And all the time looking back at someone else's opinion, you slow down your development.

7. Making life more difficult

Many people like to overcome obstacles - this also develops. But some are so afraid to move forward that they invent difficulties for themselves. Or creates them on purpose. You must be able to distinguish one from the other.

Cope with your perfectionism, set realistic goals and variable deadlines for their implementation;
give up TV, radio and unpleasant acquaintances, surround yourself with positivity;
forgive and let go of your mistakes;
do not compare yourself and your achievements with others;
do not think about the opinions of others;
Don’t look for difficulties where there are none.

If you adhere to these rules, over time you will also become interested in what kind of unhappy people they are - you will forget what it is.